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Colin466 - Sex License does NOT equal marital rape. No is still NO! A Sex License means all kinds of good guilt free naughty fun. No limits as long as a good time is being had by all. :) That said...My sympathies to OP. He needs to explore marital (and/or sexual) counseling right away. Either the wife is cheating, OP really sucks in bed or wife feels OP did something to "deserve" this kind of treatment. Whatever the cause, a solution needs to be found and fast.
You're all forgetting that we're talking about a woman. If she's denying you sex it's because she gets it better elsewhere. Unless you want to be her and her new boyfriends' maid it's time to bite the bullet and leave. Child support will likely be cheaper than supporting her and her new source of dick, which you're doing now, whether you know it or not.
Simple: setup your own point system: setup points for anything she wants to buy, for instance new shoes: 10.000 points. To earn points: Doing the laundy, dishes, cleaning, between 1 and 5 points. Sex max 100 points. But to be honest, how terrible have you been to let it even get this far?
he may be lazy, but mankind was born lazy. he should help a bit more and if she is going to have a system like this it should be a goal that is reasonable like 200 or 500 not over 2000. this will make him more likely to be bothered working for it and it would be a worthwhile reward.
A woman's sex drive is heavily linked to her emotional state...not feeling appreciated, respected, etc. will reduce a woman's sex drive (in addition to other factors like stress and lack of sleep). I don't agree with anyone making a point system for sex, but maybe the OP doesn't help around the house and doesn't make her feel loved and appreciated. That doesn't justify it (two wrongs don't make a right), but the OP probably could have done more in the first place and it never would have come up. Either way, it sucks for both of you to be in a marriage like that. Or maybe she just has a hella low sex drive. Which still sucks for the both of them.
Ok here are my thoughts: 1) OP, you have obviously either been unsupportive in doing chores around the house or you married a control freak who is never pleased despite your best efforts. If you play COD all day and make her do everything, YDI. If you genuinely try to help and she is the lazy one, you need to confront her and call her out on it. 2) Marriage is not a game. Women should not expect a man to want to be with them if they treat them like little children and act like their mother. Men do not respond well to these tactics, and he will probably take the path of least resistance (The wife's best friend for instance.) 3) Intimacy is a necessary part of a marriage. intimacy can be in the form of sex, but it also includes conversing like adults and bonding. The wife has not only cut out sex, but she has also placed herself over the husband in a motherly role. That is unattractive, immature, demeaning and does not inspire the man to be more emotionally supportive to someone who wants to take away his right to be a man. 4) Even if she is retaliating, she should be aware that she is making it much worse instead of taking a deep breath and just asking him what he thinks he should be responsible for helping out with instead of treating him like a kindergartener. Regardless of whether he is lazy or not, she is in the wrong here and needs to reevaluate her tactics before he starts going outside the marriage to get the intimacy we all crave.
Marriage does indeed not mean that you can have sex whenever you want it, but it also doesn't mean that one partner can forbid sexual intercourse, which is happening to OP. Sex is not the most important thing in the relationship, but it's certainly something that shouldn't be underestimated (or forbidden). My guess is simple: OP's wife doesn't like sex. Otherwise she wouldn't create a 'points reward' system in which they can berely have sex once a month. So, OP, if I were you, I would think about the reasons why your wife is not interested in sex (anymore) instead of complaining on FML. Do you think about her needs? Is she satisfied? Have you tried something new in the last months? Or is it just a boring couple of minutes? Once you have cleared your mind, I can give you a simple solution: seduce and try to pleasure her. After that, talk with her about your and her needs. Improve the (sexual) relationship! Oh, and don't forget to help in the house. You sound lazy.
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I don't see why marriage shouldn't mean sex whenever you want it. I think it's unfair to make him work for a "reward" like he is some sort of a child. She is acting like a selfish cow and OP could most probably get better than her.
hello, you ever think she is damn tired of working around the house and is fruit to say that sex is beneficial. So why does she have to work around the house all day then fuck her husband. She is just trying to teach op a lesson. Sex is a privilege. Plus marriage consist of two people who work together not one who does all the work, then has to relieve her husband. I like her idea(:
your right, cheaters don't prosper. but it seems a bit too obvious that OP's wife if making it seemingly impossible for them to have sex, even if he did do the chores over and over again, every day. and I just find it weird that everybody automatically assumes the guy does absolutely nothing. why assume he doesn't work 9-5 everyday? wouldn't that be like me saying "shut up woman. go get a paying job like he did and then complain". like you said, marriage is mutual, he works, she works, they both have sex. what it seems, is that wifey just doesn't wanna have sex with him.
wooowww buddy r u ever getting ripped off. ur wife is like an over priced hooker who only takes points. not only is your wife bending u over like she owns u but she also shits on u in her space time. poor bastard
You're going to leave the wife because she actually wants you to get off your lazy ass's and help her around the house for once in your life? That's the one thing that women want, for men to play part in keeping the house clean, and for doing the one thing she wants you to do, you get the one thing you want. Stop complaining. Sex isn't a right, it's a privilege. If I was your wife, I wouldn't be giving it to you at all for saying "leave that bitch." No. Grow up.
459. I don't think he Shud leave her but damn 2300 points when each time u do a chore its only 10points?! they need to get rid of the point system and talk to each other like human beings and figure something out that makes them both happy. if they can't do that then they are wasting each others time.
Sorry, I agree with 459 (: you all are assuming she's cheating or something, I'm assuming he's a lazy bum and probably only wants sex but doesnt do crap, so she's gonna teach him a lesson! .. bet she even paid for that itouch, phone, or computer he is using (;
Ahaha, Now that's one clever wifey you got there!Looks like somebodys not gonna be sexing for a long time..haha
create a points reward for how much money you give her. 2300 for $5.