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By "DingusGinger" - 20/4/2019 20:00
Today, my parents told me they went out and gambled away just about all their money, but $50 to run on for the rest of the week. We have 3 bills going out this week, its my moral duty to help them no matter what. FML
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By  TxKitten79  |  10

No, it's not your duty to be responsible for your irresponsible parents. Maybe say "this one time, and this one time only." Children are not responsible for taking care of their parents' stupid choices. They'll do it again, and expect you to bail them out again.

By  bloopaloop  |  20

Nothing is more important than family and you ought to take care of your parents whether they “deserve it” or not. You can still learn from their mistakes.

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  TxKitten79  |  10

Enabling irresponsible, stupid choices is not the same thing as taking care of someone. It would be one thing if the parents lost jobs, or had to pay for unexpected expenses. This was something completely within their control. Sometimes the best way to help someone is to let them experience consequences for their actions.

By  KaD6  |  21

You're just wrong about it being a 'moral obligation'. You're not actually helping but hurting people when you enable their addictions, much less what it's doing to you.

By  chosha_fml  |  25

Do you think you’re helping them if you mop up every time they gamble their money away? Don’t let them starve, but also don’t become their ATM. It’s unsustainable and they also have moral duties, like paying their bills.

By  davidfong  |  14

What do you mean by all their money?
All the money they had until they get their next paycheck or all of their savings and retirement money. Depending on which one will make a big difference.

If it’s all the money until next paycheck, then they can pay some bill late and then pay a late fee or if you can, lend them a little money.
If they lost their savings/retirement money that is a more difficult to answer. They both might have to go back to work.
Everyone that is saying don’t help them is their problem. Your wrong if you can help, help them out. They raised you for 18+ years. Yes they are grown ups and they should’ve known better but they are your parents and I’m sure you don’t want them kicked out of their home.

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  Xolkiyr  |  8

Here's the thing though. If they get bailed out by their kid once they'll expect it every time. I've dealt with people like OP's parents. It was probably worse when they were younger for all we know and this is just a continuing trend.

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  alycion  |  38

People with gambling problems don’t tend to have savings and retirement money. Their plans are to hit it big and never have to worry about money again. So they are probably living paycheck to paycheck.

By  Sinshine  |  26

Sometimes the right thing is to not help. You're not doing them any favors by enabling their self destructive behavior, your just helping them to fall into it more and more. If anything, get them professional help.