By hypocrite - 03/07/2012 16:43 - Canada - Campbell River
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I'd say call him up on it, but it could have bad repercussions, ie. you losing your job..
12- What's slut-shaming have to do with virginity? I know people who sleep around and still slut-shame. There's no correlation. I'm a virgin, and I respect people's wishes to do as they please sexually. It's none of my damn business, let alone anyone else's. Otherwise, I agree with the rest of your comment.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin, I was just pointing out that with her attitude, nobody with any self-respect would touch her. She thinks she's all "moral" spouting her shit, but what moral person makes assumptions like she did, much less says someone deserves that kind of treatment?
Most women's shirts are not designed with a top button; maybe patriarchal society stretches over the fashion industry to ensure women are at least sexually exploited. But this contradicts the facts there are laws on sexual harassment in the first place. Or maybe it's as simple as OP's boss gawking at OP's rack.
Sometimes FMLs need to come with visuals, most of the time I'm glad they don't but on this one it's kind of needed. If OP wears clothes that basically mean her boobs hang out (as some women do in the workplace) then that's inappropriate, and she's getting the attention she asked for. It's just the same as a guy deciding to wear chaps to work and wandering around saying, 'Don't look at my ass!'. On the other hand, if OP is dressed appropriately for her job then she has every right to be offended. I guess we'll never know.
As far as "revealing clothing" goes, that may not have been the case - a woman can wear a fitted blouse and, just because it clings to her body and provides a sexy/shapely sillouhette, people WILL stare, even if she's covered from head to toe in clothing. Maybe ONE button on her shirt was undone by accident (frequently shirts with buttons down the center of the breasts will pop open if the shirt does not fit that area properly), and the Boss was looking at her breasts through that (and not because she was wearing "revealing" clothing). Maaaaybe, the boss was just staring around (nervous?) and possibly didn't realize he was staring at your chest? Highly unlikely, but you get my point... ....OR, maybe OP was wearing something unsuitable for the workplace. Who knows. (We cooouuulddd- Only if OP posts a reply, that is...) Just a handful of possibilities here ^ But, GAH!! Sorry for the damn novel! ...
Too bad she wasn't breastfeeding, then everyone would be saying FYL... Realistically though, how do you know he was staring and wasn't just looking in that direction because he is uncomfortable presenting to groups or was thinking while talking? He may not have been consciously focusing in the direction his eyes were looking. If he was staring then he's a bit of a tool though, and the irony makes it an amusing situation but you guys might be blowing it a little out of proportion. Seriously, comparing staring at someones chest to rape? What kind of idiotic logic is that...?
I see a raise in your future. Though it may not be the one you want..