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Make sure she understand that she's moving into YOUR place and that it's YOUR rules, not hers. Good luck, OP.
At least you now get to say "as long as you're living under my roof, you obey my rules" and come up with a bunch of crazy rules and regulations. Have a list of rules written down like: 1) you must wear different coloured socks on your feet, no white matching socks allowed 2) you must wear a Santa hat when eating at the table 3) chocolate must be eaten every day, but only between the hours of 1:00pm-1:30pm Mon.-Fri. 8:00am-9:00am Sat. & Sun. And other crazy rules. Then when she complains about the rules just state the "my roof my rules" comment above. Lol
You should help her look for her own place, one she can afford. And, if you can't find one right away, let her stay with you but tell her it's your rules and it's just until she gets back on her feet and can find her own place again.
Do not down vote this. It may sound harsh, but it isn't. Lay out the rules at the start. They love their mom, but trust me, family can destroy themselves with resentment. Plan it out, help her find a place once everything is settled, but don't let it weigh you down. Never feel like you have to do something, but you can always offer help and support! You have a life too!
Now you're going to understand why people stay in unhappy marriages. Sure, you hate your spouse, but at least there's a roof over your head.
I'm not sure why this is getting downvoted as it is, unfortunately, often very true. I'm sure #5's not suggesting that op's mom should've stayed in her unhappy marriage, but is merely stating that op's mom's situation is exactly the reason that some people do stay in unhappy relationships. I think this comment is even more true for women 30+ years ago. A lot of women got married young & out of high school, had kids, and became a stay at home mom, which is fine, except if they were in an unhappy marriage, they often felt they couldn't leave (or stand up to their husbands) because they were worried they wouldn't be able to get a job making enough to support themselves. And depending on how far back we're talking, they didn't usually get adequate spousal support income if they did divorce.
Just say no?? Dont let her move in. Just flat out say "i love you but i moved out for a reason"