By Z - 14/11/2012 00:43 - Australia
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No, OP admitted nothing. He said his girlfriend declared that he was behaving like a child. What the girlfriend is doing is abuse, and I'm not just referring to hitting her boyfriend with a spoon. Abusive people will humiliate their partners in non violent ways too, and this is probably the most outrageous example I've ever heard. Nothing OP could have done would warrant this treatment, and if he did do something intolerable, then his girlfriend should dump him. OP needs to dump his abusive girlfriend before things get worse.
If the OP was acting like a man in the first place, then she wouldn't have needed to give him this ultimatum in the first place. Or let's assume for a second that OP's girlfriend is a bitch and has no reason to have said this to him. A real man would have left her, not gone online to complain about it. Congrats on never having dated a manchild.
I guarantee you she's been belittling and disrespecting OP for a long time, which is why he's learned to put up with this behavior. I agree with you, though,that he has no respect for himself if he tolerates this treatment. If he wants to get that self respect back he needs to dump his abusive partner. That's how I got my self respect back, and now I'm happier than ever, and I wonder why I put up with my ex husband's bull shit for so long.
"holy shit, my girlfriend said she'd hit my bum with a spoon if I acted my age. I must dump her, things incredibly disrespectful"... WHAT?! this is insane! if he's being lazy and incompetent then he should do something about it! his girlfriend could have screamed her head and kicked him out for good but she chose to go down the route of something that could be quite humorous. lighten up!
71, and just about everyone else, you're all assuming that OP really was being lazy and incompetent. You don't know that. Even if he was, the healthy way to handle it would be to discuss it with him, or, if that didn't work, yes, dump him. Hitting an adult is never appropriate, nor is belittling them with name calling or by patronizing them. Given the girlfriend's irrational behavior, I'd wager that SHE is the childish one, and that she lashed out at OP for something insignificant.
I agree with 71. But it really just depends on whether you get offended easily or not. Don't forget that we also don't know if the girlfriend acted harshly and in a seriously abusive way, as 117 put it, or if she was merely messing around with OP. I would assume that people in relationships would already be comfortable enough with making fun of each other. IMO, I don't think the OP really took it to heart since he probably wouldn't be posting his problems to this site if he was really concerned about an abusive relationship.
PS. For 117... when you say "hitting an adult is never appropriate" and talking about the girlfriend's disrespect for OP... have you never had a good-natured, humoured banter with another? I mean, I lightly hit my friends and push them around all the time, but never enough to cause physical harm mind you. Heck, they do it to me too and sometimes we call each other names when teasing! (gasp) Doesn't mean we don't respect each other though. Ya know what I mean? Just my 2 cents c:
Talk to her like she is an old lady DO YOU UNDER....STAAAAAAAND miss
If you don't feel like you're doing anything wrong then you should communicate with her. If that doesn't work then you should definitely break it off. Sounds as though she is a controlling bitch
When you love someone, it's difficult to just leave. You want to see them be successful so you try everything you can to help them do that, even if it means acting more like a mother than a girlfriend. It took me a long time to realize that I wasn't going to change anything and that I needed to put myself first and let him ruin his life on his own. This may be nothing like OP's situation, I'm definitely projecting here, but it's not completely unreasonable that the girlfriend would act that way.
It is technically a fetish. I personally think its odd (but people would think my latex fetish is odd, so I cant judge) when a man/woman dresses and acts like a baby. There is no sexual pleasure given (normally) during this time. It's just something he/she enjoys doing. Receiving punishment, being coddled.