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By rejected / Friday 13 April 2012 05:09 / United States - Charlotte
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By  Ruffclue  |  9

Hey man you gotta learn how to lie.

By  bbedlock_fml  |  7

Good for you. She would have done this all through your marriage anyway.

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By  Ruffclue  |  9

Hey man you gotta learn how to lie.

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  Hearon20  |  0

Of course, because that's how all good relationships start.

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  SkoomaKi  |  24

17 - I don't think 2 meant that lying throughout or at the start of the relationship is good, he probably meant OP should've come up with a better white lie so he could surprise his girlfriend with an engagement ring.

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  EvilPotato  |  14

Well it's better that you knew before hand that she was a jumpy bitch right?

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  blackheart24  |  10

I think that OPs gf did overreact, but I also think that Op could have been cooler about it and avoided the issue with his gf. I mean yeah, he woulda been lying, but it's for a good reason.

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  ruyukyo  |  13

Why would she immediately jump to that conclusion? There are plenty of other valid reasons she could have thought of instead of assuming the worst. I don't think she's worth it brother, she obviously doesn't love you as much if she can just dump you without even checking if her assumption was right.

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  jrgr  |  6

Well, if my boyfriend refused to tell me who a girl in his phone was, I'd probably think the worst too. I wouldn't have dumped him, though. I'd just have to trust that he's not doing anything behind my back.

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  kristabelli  |  19

#2 - TOTALLY agree. The best thing OP could come up with was to refuse to tell her???!? What is the poor girl supposed to think when he's acting all weird and refuses to tell her who Melissa is? YDI for not being able to think on your feet.

By  Cathrin  |  26

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I say you deserve it, OP, because refusing to say who a girl your (most likely) long term girlfriend has never heard of is sort of suspicious. But also FYL, because you really were just trying to do something sweet.

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  CadyAsInKatie  |  8

Thank you, 30, for putting my thoughts into words. Everytime my boyfriend had tried to not tell or show me something it had turned out to be this other chick he was dating. So OP girlfriend was NOT over-reacting. I hope OP can fix it all up alright, though.

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  22cute  |  17

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By  bbedlock_fml  |  7

Good for you. She would have done this all through your marriage anyway.

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I agree. Feelings are multiplied in marriage, so if you go into it with a strong relationship, you'll have no problem. If she broke up with you the second she saw the girls name, there were some underlying trust issues there. It's better you find out now!

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  jay2121  |  3

Ah you're better off bud, if all it took to upset her was seeing a girls name in your phone to piss her off. She obviously has trust issues because I'm going to go ahead an assume she was going through your phone since she saw it on the contacts list. However sorry to hear that happened to ya. 5's completely right.

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  Baustigt  |  40

I think more what pissed her off is probably the fact that he wouldn't tell her who Melissa was. It doesn't exactly bode well when discussions go like this: GF: "So who's Melissa?" OP: "No-one." GF: "But it says here -" OP: "GODDAMN IT WOMAN I DANG SAID IT WERE NO-ONE, Y'HEAR?" *runs her over with tractor* Actually, I take it back. The tractor probably had a part to play.

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Idk if she would have done this all through out marriage.. I mean she asked him a simple question and wen he refused to answer she got suspicious.. He could have just told her that he was buying something from her and not seemed like he was trying to hide something

By  Keevarou  |  16

You could have told her that it was because of a present to her... Then no loose ends to misunderstand on :) Fyl though, she sounds kind of insecure.. If she really love you, maybe she will want you back

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I agree. she will probably want you back. this is an opportunity for her to learn that you are trustworthy. I would ignore all the 'omg, run, she's crazy' comments, since every relationship has it's ups and downs, and misunderstandings.....real men stick around, and prove their worth. :)

By  HandsomeRatch  |  20

Yeah, my boyfriend isn't allowed to have any female contacts either. I totally understand her reaction. Derp.

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  alfred07  |  18

Not even family members or friends? Even if you aren't allowed any male contacts on your phone that seems overly restrictive.

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Because it doesn't really sound sarcastic. She seems she is just like OP's girl, if not worse. I can understand the sarcasm, but hers was pretty subtle. Not very easy to pick up on.

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  EmoBitchRock  |  0

Dude. Why would you do that, I mean, I can at least trust my boyfriend with girls in his CONTACTS. Dumbfuck. That's just a bitch-move not letting him talk to any girls at all.

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  notsorandomguy  |  18

It's pretty obviously exaggerated anyways. No person would say no female contacts AT ALL. Then again, I can't judge this objectively, as this is the kind of sarcasm I use. But stop with the downvoting, especially all those who just see the down votes and follow along. Yes, I know you're out there. Rant over.

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Wow. If my girlfriend was that controlling, I'd dump HER! A relationship is mostly a waste of time if you can't trust each other. Trust and love makes the relationship. My girlfriend lets me do what I want and I let her do what she wants. No questions asked. We've been happily together for 3 years now and still going strong. We've got nothing to hide from each other... That's so stupid and immature when girls do that to their men. And I say "girls" for a reason. Guys shouldn't do it either. Jealousy is a main reason people cheat. They are being accused so much, they just do it (cheat) and get it over with. More than likely, the one making accusations is the cheater. In all honesty, people who are super jealous and make accusations constantly deserve to be cheated on. I could be wrong though.

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  HandsomeRatch  |  20

#266, I wasn't serious. Also, work on your spelling. Seriously, do you all have trouble with undertsanding sarcasm or anything? Or did you just not spot the "derp" right there? Yeah, we desperately need a sarcasm font.

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  kawaiisakura  |  12

#254, in my first relationship i was constantly cheated on. So with relationships, i do have trust issues. I dnt like my bf talking to numerous girls n he knows it. At first it was a mutual no opp sex thing, but then i relaxed and let him. Sometimes, relationships can be like that. Trust isnt just given once you start a relationship, for me i like to ease the girls in

By  alfred07  |  18

You should have lied or failing that gone after her and explained. Since this only happened today I imagine there is still time for you to fix it.

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It didn't necessarily happen today. All FMLs start with 'Today,' no matter when it was posted. And that's assuming they DID post right away. In other words, this could've happened yesterday, or even 5 years ago.

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