By Guy - 28/09/2015 18:49 - Romania - Bucharest
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From reading this, i can safely say you're better off without her.
This isn't as simple as you make it out to be. She doesn't want her future kids to have diabetes which can greatly affect their lives. I'm not saying she's right, but the world isn't only rights and wrongs. She could've explained to OP why they can't date anymore, we don't know if she did.
Adoption exists, artificial insemination exists, sperm donors exist, foster kids exist. There is also such a thing as having kids and accepting them for who they are, regardless of illness or disability. Abandoning someone based on eugenicist ideals is messed up, and it's not like OP purposely got diabetes just to fuck with his ex.
I have epilepsy, and part of me understands the girlfriend's logic. I don't plan on having biological children because I don't want them inheriting the same diseases I have; like every parent, I want my child to have a better life than my own. However, this is not her decision to make and she is being a closed-minded bitch about it. There are many alternative options, as 48 mentioned, and ending a relationship over this is about as cold as it gets. I'm very sorry OP.
Ya, I don't agree with what she did. But at the same time, I understand not wanting to have kids if you have a disease that can be genetically passed down to your kids. I have a disease, and although there's no evidence that it's passed on genetically, I have thought that if it was genetically passed down, I definitely wouldn't have kids. However, as others have mentioned, there are other options, and it doesn't necessarily mean the kids will have diabetes in the first place. Sounds like she was getting ready to end the relationship and just took this as a way out. If she really loved you she would've stayed.
It doesn't mean it will for certain be passed down either. My grandma had MANY conditions but so far most of them haven't turned up in her kids or theirs. You are going to have an impossible time finding someone without medical conditions or the genes for them. I understand some people see it best, and I think that's very honorable, but not everyone with a condition should be told not to have children. My family and I have depression that we have to take medications for and I've had someone(not medical professional) tell me that perhaps I shouldn't have children because of it. It felt like I should feel guilty because I wanted to birth a child(both me and my gf admitted we'd like to but we'd also like to adopt if we could)
Dude, this is a good thing, maybe you can find an intelligent life form next to date
You can't find a cure for stupid OP, she's not someone you want to have a relationship with anyway