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Hmmm if you're pregnant which it seems like you are according to your name let's do some math here : OPs bf works 50 hours x 4 weeks = 200 x 9 months is 1,800 hours ... OPs pregnancy ... Remember unpaid ... 24 hours a day for 7 days = 168 hours a week x 4 weeks = 672 x 9 months = 6,048 Of pain he will never understand ...
No doubt that she should have to help out around the house but it seems to me that he has some unrealistic expectations. No it will not be hard to keep the house clean but clocking in at 50 hrs is a bit much. Every pregnancy is different so the pain could very well start at the beginning. My 2 were completely difference but I was fortunate enough to have a bf who completely understood if my housework wasn't done on time. He encouraged me to do it at my own pace. That worked the best for Us!
wow i meant near the end as in you don't feel neck-breaking, bone-cringing, stomach-crushing, butt-aching, heart-bursting, etc. pain the whole time during pregnancy, so if it's only the first few months, she should be able to do some housework. 50 hours is too much but she i don't think this was fml worthy.
Then I wonder what he is.. Tell him about how the world can be unfair, and that it's not the same at all. Give him a piece of your mind if it bothers you, in worst case, that can tear up your relationship is things like that will happen on a daily basis, he's your boyfriend after all
I will go a step farther and say relationships should be 100% 100%! (: Bringing your all and having your partner do the same. I doubt the OP's boyfriend would be asking for this insane amount of housework hours if he felt she was holding up her end of the deal. It's obviously an /over exaggerated/ number. He just wants things tidy when he gets home-- whether it takes the OP an hour or 50 to do. No one wants to feel unappreciated, especially if he's working those long hours. I understand pregnancy can do a toll on the body but since the OP called herself lazy, it's that and not because she's incapable of doing it.
Well. . . I would say that for the 9 months the gal is pregnant, and even the first two to three years, I'd draw vast exception. Pregnancy, I think, is way overblown, but . . . whatever. Give em the glory. Some women have a really hard time with pregnancy, and complications. Other women, (most women) don't. Morning sickness usually only happens for MOST women, in the first few weeks. The back-pain and other issues, in the last 6 weeks. I think a lot of women like to just take advantage, and make it a big 9-month vacation. But taking care of infants and toddlers, is a huge pain. The mother-to-be is in for a huge world of hurt for the next couple of years. However, I would expect at least a LITTLE visible effort, while I'm busting my *ss. Because a full-time job, and having the wife and future of the family RELY on you, is also, very very hard. I'm not even talking about 50 hours a week. I'm talking about 15 lousy minutes a day to put the dishes in the dishwasher before I get home from work. I'm also talking about; for the rare weeks that I have to work 60, 70, 80 hours, don't give me crap. It's not like this is a choice. It's not my hobby. I wouldn't give you crap if you spent 80 hours cleaning. In most cases, the consequences of screwing up while you're taking care of the house, or the kid, is negligible. You screw up dinner, you order a pizza. You screw up potty-training, you clean up some poop. But even a minor screw up at work (or often - nothing to do with your own performance) can cost you a job, and these days, that could put you on long-term unemployment, and a social-mobility downtrend. Not just for you, but for those who rely on your income. This is a huge burden. It sucks. The stay-at-home-moms DO NOT APPRECIATE IT. And there are some dads who don't get involved, don't help at all, don't do anything with their kids. I'm not talking about those. I'm talking about the regular good dads who bust their kiesters working, AND being family-men. They deserve better. So at least a LITTLE visible effort. It's nice not to have 5 days worth of dirty dishes rotting in the sink, when you come home after a 50 hour work-week. (and I'm not exaggerating - and I'm not the only guy who complains about this. I keep my mouth shut, and I hear everyone else complain. I don't know what these stay at home moms are thinking). You know which guys I hear DO NOT COMPLAIN? The guys who married career-women. It's not a matter of the house having to ALWAYS be clean. It's a matter of - eventually - the house is NEVER clean. The kids get past that toddler stage, and they're capable of helping out, and they don't. Mom doesn't ask them to. Dad's working full time, and cleaning the house, and everyone's sitting back and enjoying themselves. And if Dad says one word - she divorces him, sits back, and lives off the child support. (this is for the dads who ARE working hard, and trying to do the right thing - we get screwed over. The ones who DON'T work are the deadbeats, who you divorce, and you can't squeeze a penny out of them).
#223. What bug got up your ass? You seem like some guy who went through some shit, and passive aggressively rants on the internet. Sox whatever happened, I'm sorry. However. You have ZERO idea what it takes to be a mother. It's not a burden. It's the fact that you created a living soul, and are showing that child to know and grow in the world the way you always wanted it to be. To be a mother isn't a job, and it doesn't pay the bills. But I will bet you that it's more work than you will experience. Yes, moms sometimes get cranky, but shit, we're taking care of two people, and ungrateful boyfriends/husbands/anyone else just bring the icing on the cake, so fuck you sir. You're just the type of boy a mother needs.
Do you work? If so then that's a stupid claim, it's like having two jobs
I wouldn't normally bash OP's significant other, but considering your name, I'd say he's either pulling your leg, or he's kind of a dick.
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Just because she is pregnant doesn't mean she shouldn't clean. I mean, 50 hours is a little excessive, but if you aren't working, the house should definitely be clean. It probably came up in a fight, where she didn't work, he did, and the house was dirty.
48, it's hardly that simple. We don't know how far along OP is. yeah she could be two months along with no bump whatsoever yet, or she could be 6 months along with a large bump. Bending over to clean or to pick something up that you dropped can be difficult, exposure to certain chemicals can harm the baby, she may still be suffering from morning sickness and be throwing up all the time. Yes, she should clean but it should be up to her to figure out how much she is capable of doing.
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If she had put in the effort to do an hour a day, plus making him a serving of whatever she's having for dinner the house would be spotless and this topic would have never come up. My sister stayed with me during her pregnancy and kept a time log as I paid her for it.
I would be happy with a girlfriend who did 5 hours of house work..
Oh chill out already - I said dump his ass because even if she is pregnant she doesnt deserve to be treated like this by someone who's obviously a sexist pig . Maybe I'm old fashioned but I still believe in pampering my girlfriend and even if I worked 80 hours a week I wouldn't demand her to do that much housework .
If your pregnant you shouldn't be doing too much and resting. Well depending how far along you are. Also your boyfriend sounds a bit sexist.
I knew someone who was pregnant and still carried on her household duties. She had a miscarriage every time until her husband finally convinced her to just stay in bed and stop straining herself. She had a particularly weak womb, but still, your boyfriend should be cutting you some slack. I hope you have a successful pregnancy!
50 hours a week is a sucky amount of work so I can understand why he'd be like that but still..
In #10's defense, I work at a major airport and hours rack up like crazy. With all the flexibility and what not. You're also able to pick up, trade/swap or give your hours. 100 hours is definitely plausible. Some of my co workers do 80 hours or more week after week.
Im at about 70 hours a week and anything over 40 is OT. Pays the house and bills and no I don't make my wife log in 70 hrs of house chores. (lol not even sure there is enough work for that). My wife is FT student and I take pride in the fact that I support her. She gets lots of time to enjoy herself and guess what I don't mind. It's all fair because for the first 3 years we knew each other she supported my out of college jobless ass.
If you're prego, there's plenty you can do to keep the house in order, especially of its only you two. Fifty hours a week isn't shit, he should be glad it isn't 90-100. THAT can be hell.