Not everyone is into anal, maybe? Both men and women can find it unenjoyable. It's a kink, expecting everyone to be into it or like it is stupid. And I like how you try to make it equal to going down on a woman. ******** are equal to going down on a woman, giving a woman anal is equal to the woman giving you anal with a strap on. Don't expect/demand something you aren't willing to do yourself, and even then if its unenjoyable or painful for your partner do you really want to do it?

You seem to have misunderstood me. I wouldn't pressure someone to do something they hate, and I wouldn't demand a woman do anal. But if I am dating a woman and she said "I would never do anal" I would probably check out of that relationship and move on. Life is to short to spend 5 years warming some cold fish up to your kinks. I would just find someone who is more sexually compatible with me.

With your name of bad_boyfriend I can see hour logic

Also, this is why you don't make [stupid] sweeping generalizations based on one person's experience. The guy being your boyfriend vs husband vs whatever you want to call the relationship is completely irrelevant. There are loving, dedicated boyfriends who don't need marriage to prove their commitment, and there are douchebag husbands who cheat and abuse their family. Any guy could be either type regardless of the label on their relationship. It's about his personality. OP's boyfriend would almost certainly have acted the exact same way even if they were married. And I believe my boyfriend will be a wonderful father if we have kids, regardless of whether he has a chunk of gold wrapped around his finger or not.

Really doubt his attitude would be different if they were married! By the way I have 2 kids with my BOYFRIEND, and he's never considered sex that soon after I gave birth, both times he made sure I was the one who initiated sex as he knew I would be ready!