By nosymptoms - 10/02/2012 00:09 - United States

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Today, my boyfriend of three months told me he's going to get tested for STDs, because he's worried about a previous partner. I'm grateful for his thoughtfulness, but I'd be even more grateful if we hadn't already slept together several times. FML
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Maybe thats his way of sayin he cheated

You can always hope he doesnt have any. If he does, better hope its not herpes.

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You can always hope he doesnt have any. If he does, better hope its not herpes.

Cause that shit is forever.

Better hope it's not herpes? So HIV, chlamydia, syphilis, gonnorhea (sp?), HPV, hepatitis, crabs & numerous others are cotton candy compared to herpes? I'd rather have a few warts than or a cold sore rather than a life threatening incurable STD like HIV

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Except herpes.. that shit'll come back with you.

At least he cares enough to get tested. He could keep quiet and YOU would be off spreading God knows which viruses to unsuspecting partners.

13, she said her boyfriend was worried about giving her something from a previous partner, so I'm assuming they are monogamous. In which case OP would not be giving it to other unsuspecting partners. Then it would be a whole different FML.

O GOD ANYTHING EXCEPT HERPES!!!

Always use condoms!! You and a new partner should always get tested before doing anything sexual with out protection. Who knows what anyone could have these days.

Sorry, 56, but condoms really aren't that effective with a majority of STD's. The only real, guaranteed way to avoid contraction is to not sleep with someone who's infected. In her case, she'll just have to hope. Even if the boyfriend tests negative, some STD's take years to show up. Good luck, OP.

Don't be silly and wrap your willy

There should be a semicolon after silly, by using an and it sounds like your saying it is silly to wrap your willy.

61- Everything shows up when you get tested. It's the symptoms that may not show.

70-Everything shows up *eventually*. Some STIs cannot be found immediately (how long it takes varies depending on the STI) and HPV is not even tested for unless it shows symptoms because it is so common.

70- All STDs will show up eventually. Things like AIDS or HIV or even Herpes can take anywhere from 6 months to 30 years to show up on a test. Non-terminal diseases take anywhere from a month to 3 years to show up on a test. But everybody is different. Test results vary. But no, not everything shows up on a test instantly. Like I said, it can span out to a matter of 30 years. People just need to be careful..

Chlamydia and crabs can be treated and cured, most others can

70, you should really seek out more info on this before trying to make a point.

61- I think you may need to do more research before giving out info. Condoms are not perfect protection from herpes, and do nothing for crabs, but long as you use them correctly they DO protect against HIV, syphilis, etc. They also greatly lessen your chance of contracting herpes. That said, it sounds like op didn't use a condom so yeah... They have a much higher risk of having caught something from their bf

Maybe thats his way of sayin he cheated

Whores now-a-days...

Or maybe this previous partner just found out she had an STD and contacted him to let him know he probably should get tested.

Of course. He's a guy, so your first instinct should always be "he cheated". Right? Obviously he IS an ass for saying he wants to be tested for STD's after having sex with her though.

Doesn't matter had sex ! Jk...

That's what some would say if you told them what op's bf did.

Lol so true! ;)

Yes, 130 we get it you're a tool. And popped collars still aren't cool.

Nothing says I love you like an STD. But really, if he had any doubts at all he should have told you first before sleeping with you. And when in doubt, use protection.

Happy almost-Valentines Day!

That's what condoms are for..

Exactly I was looking for this exact comment I mean C'mon you two have only been together three months and you're NOT using protection? I mean it's 2012, you just never know what's out there

Condoms aren't the only form of protection, some people just dont like them.

Nor do condoms actually protect you from all STD's.

Dummy ok yeah you may not like them but what if you get aids? I'd bet you would have liked them before rather than after.

Condoms don't prevent contracting HIV/AIDS. So, not only would OP get AIDS, but she would be uncomfortable doing it.

Do you mind with coming up with any proof of those statements you just made?

26- To be technical, one cannot just get AIDS. They contract HIV and, over time, it becomes AIDS. And that is a process that takes years.

So you're saying since condoms don't protect you from all Sods, then there is no point in wearing one?

76, read a condom box if you don't believe me. 101, I'm saying that wearing a condom doesn't preclude the possibility of contracting a disease.

Double sent comment. Sorry.

Uhh unless you are doing it wrong, condoms DO protect from HIV/aids. The HIV virus is spread via body fluid through a cut in the body. This is why it's more common in gay men because anal sex results in more small tears then vaginal sex. Condoms stop the fluid from coming in contact with the body, so short of the rare occurrence a condom breaks, they will protect you from most stds- including HIV.

Amen! I'd never have unprotected sex with a partner until we had both gone and got tested for stds. It's common sense. If op has only been with bf a short time, never asked about getting tested and didn't use a condom? They should of known better

Just realized I said sods instead of STDs

If u think that's gonna stop it then have fun when u get a nice surprise.

Not to make you sound gullible but I think he might be worried about more recent events.

Georgia. Surprise.

^ Sharing is caring.

Better late than never!

This case is an exception to your comment, he possibly ruined her life which is too late

In this case I have to say Op should have been more careful with who she slept with. I always make sure I see medical records before I sleep with someone. It might seem over the top but I get checked every six months since my sister came down with HIV three years ago. I am clean, and the people I sleep with have to prove they are before we have sex. It might not prevent all STI's since some stuff can slip through the cracks but I am not sleeping with someone who has herpes. She should have been proactive and not just "trusted" him about things like that.