By youngblood - 20/06/2011 01:20 - United States
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I see it as being kind of thoughtful. If he knew he was going to break up with you in a year anyway, maybe he was trying to spare your feelings. Usually the longer a couple is together, the closer they are. It's possible he just didn't want you to become more attached then you already are. I don't really understand why he would break up with you just because he was going to college. It seems like you will be better off without him. You'll find the right guy soon.
No, he's not a jerk. He's only being sensible. he doesn't want to have to go through the break up just before college, would you?That's too much stress. It's inevitable, plus, a lot can happen in a year. after that year, if they were still dating, they would be closer, and the break-up would be even harder.
But why should going to college inevitably lead to a break-up? I really don't get that mentality. If you love eachother and if you're willing to do more effort and also accept the fact you will see eachother less than usual, than there is no reason for a relation to end. Even long term relationships can have a happy ending. Face it, OP's boyfriend just isn't interested in the effort and, probably, wants to have sex without boundaries.
@46 thats your opinion. just because it works for some doesnt mean other people have any interest in it. people also remain in relationships after someone cheats, should everyone follow that mentality? no. because it doesnt suit them. oh and even if he doesnt think he can maintain a relationship lacking sex, and thinks he would sleep around, then its his business and his prerogative to make that decision, hes not being deceitful.
well if he is moving away why stay in a relationship. You guys are obviously young and quite frankly relationships are hard to keep in tact in short distances let alone long. Its better he breaks up with you now and you write an FML about it then you go to visit him at his dorm in 18 months time to find him with another girl. He is being sensible it doesn't mean he doesn't like you it just means he may not like the idea of being in a long distant relationship at all and maybe he wants to just spend this year to concentrate on his studies even more before going.