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Okay, let me rephrase this. What the fuck is 'sex hair'? Messy hair from a recent fuck? I don't know. Also, this story is pretty typical of a South African. Laid back and never thinking of the consequences... Edit: 11- ah okay. Got it, thanks :)
You had sex with his religious mother in the house? Disrespectful
Haha. Just because someone holds religious views there's no reason to impose them on other people. If OP doesn't want to respect the mother's views then that's fine. Religion isn't even taken seriously these days.
Regardless of if you agree with her religious views or not, it is still disrespectful to blatantly do something in her house you know she seriously disapproves of. I'm not religious but my ex boyfriends mom was. She knew she couldn't prevent us from having sex, but out of respect for her views, we never had sex in her house. tl;dr her house, her rules. Be a grown up and respect them.
Well idk about you 22 but, a rule i learned was "under my roof, my rules." So if i can conclude that it is his mothers house, for sure sex without marriage should not happen in that house. Then again his mother could be living with him and still bitch about him having sex without being married.
60 - it's clear you are either completely ignorant or do not have the capacity to respect someone who is doing you a favor by allowing you to live in their home free of rent. It's also clear your parents did a piss poor job in giving you the proper education on learning to respect them and others who are doing you favors such as the above. Typical ignorant attitude which sadly is plaguing many of the new generation. Me, me, me! Type of mindset.
It would be foolish to try and force everyone we know to think and believe and act the way we think is right. Everybody is entitled to their own opinions and values; nobody wants differing expectations stuck on them. HoweveR, we all must respect peoples' boundaries. If op is underage and his mother is supporting and caring for him, and he knows she wouldn't want him fornicating (in general, but esp in the next room) Then he shouldn't be, even if he disagrees. And even if its irritating. She just loves her son and wants him to be safe and happy
Look at me. I grew up with no father and a mother who hates me above all. I grew up as a hoodrat type but I'm 18 now and figured out for myself that I need to grow up and respect others beliefs and opinions instead of the opposite. If I can do that I'm more than sure you could, 44. Parents raising you have nothing to do with the man or woman you become, you decide that. tl;dr Grow up.
It's disrespectful to have sex while the mother's there. Next time, wait until you're alone.
Who gives a fuck if the mother is in the house? All of this "disrespectful" bullshit... If they don't get caught, it has no effect on anyone else.
They are disrespecting the mother's rules. It doesn't matter if they get caught. OP, I was a horny teen not too long ago, and I more than understand the want to share your first time with your boyfriend when you are in love, but you don't have a place to do it unless you break the rules. My advice is to wait until you can get a hotel room with him, or until he is moved out of his moms house, or something like that where you can be in a safe place while following your parents' wishes. It may not seem worth it now, but it is ;)
I know, that's why I said you may not think its worth it now, but at least for me, I wish I had waited. I got into a lot of trouble as a 16 year old for having sex in a car because I couldn't do it in mine or my boyfriend's house. And it caused a lot of distrust between my parents and me. Sure it may be unjust, but if I could do it over, I wouldn't risk that again.
I have vowed to never put my kids through that (whenever or if ever I have kids). I would never want them to feel as guilty as I did about something so fundamental as sexuality. I agree that it's a stupid rule and that teens should be free to make their own sexual choices as long as they are responsible. But I wouldn't go against my parents simply because I think they need respect too.
Neither would I. But respect is a choice, not a requirement. When I go home I don't have sex in my house with my parents there, ill barely even touch my girlfriend. I'm not even sure they care but its a choice of mine. But if someone wants to have sex with parents home that's their choice as well.
I honestly can't believe the level of disrespect people have for their parents. No, you don't have sex in their house if they do not believe in pre material sex. That is your parent and you are in their house that they pay for and worked hard for. I live with my cousin, even pay her rent. She asked if I can keep PDA low because of my younger siblings and you know what, I do, because I respect her. Seriously people, these are the people that gave you life. All they ask for is respect.
It's not a stupid rule. Do you know how many teens get pregnant from being careless about having sex? Most teens aren't mature enough to make a decision on whether or not to have sex or not. They think it's nothing, but we were made to have sex so we could reproduce and as pleasure, and we shouldn't have sex until we're married.
It's unreasonable to expect someone to wait for marriage, especially now that people get married later and later in life and many people choose not to marry. When I become a parent I would expect my teen to be responsible and make good choices. It is possible for teens to do so if you talk to them about it and set boundaries. Such as: you may only have sex in these places, and you must use these forms of contraception and protection and you both must first get tested for these STDs etc. Teens can be mature if you let them and raise them to be. It was not a good choice that I made at 16, and maybe I would have made the same mistake even with this guidance, but I would have been more healthy mentally because I would not have been ashamed of being sexually active. There is nothing wrong with that. It is natural and healthy to want to have sex at that age, and if you teach good decision making and consequence evaluation as a parent, your teen will probably be better off and more trusting of you and more independent and self sufficient and confident.
How were you able to get comfortable enough to make love for the first time while his religious mother was in the next room? When my husband and I had to live in my Aunt's basement for a while, our love life suffered briefly because we felt so awkward about it.