might be time to talk to her about a sexual partner outside of the relationship and hope she understands... sorry dude

whelp, time for divorce...

I think its ridiculously unfair of her to expect you to go without sex. had she been acting like she didn't enjoy it? is she perhaps sleeping with someone else?

It is also ridiculously unfair to expect someone to have unsatisfied and bad sex with you. Clearly they are incompatible and the wife can not put up with it any longer. They should open their relationship with other people / seek other options or divorce if sex is a huge part of romantic relationship for them.

IF sex is a huge part of a romantic relationship?

Uhh, I would say that's the case the vast majority of the time.

And you're making a lot of assumptions, too. She said she didn't enjoy sex period, not that she didn't enjoy it with him.

Fact is she's likely to be single the rest of her life if he leaves, because who really wants to be with someone like that?

Yes, IF. For some people it is not important. There are asexual people, you know. And those with low libido. Just because they are incompatible with each other it does not mean that they will never find someone compatible. And not that I think that they NEED to find another partner, some people are totally content with being single.

It sound like there’s something going on with your wife, you guys might want to get some counseling. But if she doesn’t want to have sex anymore, she’s has to understand stand that you have sexual needs. So you guys are going to have to talk about what you can do. This is where I think the counseling would come in handy. Best of luck!

If you love her, go to a counselor. Even if she won’t go, you NEED to for your own sake.

Is that a direct quote? You’re not omitting the words “with you,” are you?

Get radical penis enlargement surgery and get a monster dong. If your wife doesn’t worship it, plenty of other women will (that is, if porn is truthful.)

If that's true, think about how the past 9 years were like for her...

I'd say that's on her, since she should have been upfront about this from the beginning.

Honestly, you need to get to the bottom of "why" she doesn't enjoy sex and if it is something she is willing to work to correct. It could be medical, psychological, or any number of things. Unfortunately that is all part of the "for better or worse" part. Intimacy is an important part of being married. If she isn't willing to try to fix the issue, then you are going to have to ask yourself is you want to live in a sexless marriage. It's a tough one, but life is to short to be unhappy, so you either accept it, work on it, or end it.

You seem to focus on you and only your needs. No wonder she is refusing sex.

Well when the sex life breaks down thats a good sign the relationships falling to pieces. the 2019 forecast is for a shitstorm followed by a drinking problem and a mid life crysis. try talking to her and finding out whats wrong, dont jsut jump into talking about sleeping with someone else" shell think all you care about is sex not just her. she might be trying this just to see if you stay with her for her.

It means it's time for either an open relationship or a divorce.