might be time to talk to her about a sexual partner outside of the relationship and hope she understands... sorry dude

whelp, time for divorce...

It sound like there’s something going on with your wife, you guys might want to get some counseling. But if she doesn’t want to have sex anymore, she’s has to understand stand that you have sexual needs. So you guys are going to have to talk about what you can do. This is where I think the counseling would come in handy. Best of luck!

If you love her, go to a counselor. Even if she won’t go, you NEED to for your own sake.

Is that a direct quote? You’re not omitting the words “with you,” are you?

Get radical penis enlargement surgery and get a monster dong. If your wife doesn’t worship it, plenty of other women will (that is, if porn is truthful.)

If that's true, think about how the past 9 years were like for her...

I'd say that's on her, since she should have been upfront about this from the beginning.

Honestly, you need to get to the bottom of "why" she doesn't enjoy sex and if it is something she is willing to work to correct. It could be medical, psychological, or any number of things. Unfortunately that is all part of the "for better or worse" part. Intimacy is an important part of being married. If she isn't willing to try to fix the issue, then you are going to have to ask yourself is you want to live in a sexless marriage. It's a tough one, but life is to short to be unhappy, so you either accept it, work on it, or end it.

You seem to focus on you and only your needs. No wonder she is refusing sex.

Well when the sex life breaks down thats a good sign the relationships falling to pieces. the 2019 forecast is for a shitstorm followed by a drinking problem and a mid life crysis. try talking to her and finding out whats wrong, dont jsut jump into talking about sleeping with someone else" shell think all you care about is sex not just her. she might be trying this just to see if you stay with her for her.

It means it's time for either an open relationship or a divorce.

This isn't the first I've heard of something like this but there could be a few explanations.. 1. something to possibly do with her mental health 2. she is no longer attracted to you 3. sex isn't doing it for her 4. she may be seeing someone else 5. she may be bored of your marriage 6. some other factor.. can't say for sure as there isn't much information to go off of. Your best bet is to try counselling as a lot of things can come out during a session. But it takes two to make a healthy marriage work so I suggest seeing someone right away so you can get some closure. I wish you the best ❤

Another possible factor: the wife is asexual and it just starting to figure that out. Not everyone wants or enjoys sex.