By fuck you, mum - United Kingdom
Today, marks the sixth day in a row that my mum has called me to discuss my upcoming wedding. She's obsessed and has intimidated the actual planner I hired into going along with her plans. She's slipped up twice already and accidentally referred to it as her own wedding. Just great. FML
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  MuseFan1991  |  14

my mum keeps trying to influence what my wedding dress will look like. I'm having a Catholic wedding so she thinks having a strapless dress would be 'inappropriate'

  chell1894  |  13

Yeah, seriously tell her how it is or just elope. My mil is like that as well. She wanted to plan my rehearsal party aka plan HER party and I just flat out told her no. She hasn't bothered me about it since. The longer you wait the worse she'll get and the harder it'll be to get her to stop

  SillyGirl4602  |  23

Op needs to tell her mother that this isn't her wedding and she needs to stop planning it for her. Op deserves the wedding that she wants. Not one that the mother wants.

  firegirl1993  |  21

OP needs to do much more than talk, it's her wedding, not her mother's. She deserves the big day she's been dreaming of. OP needs to slap (metaphorically) her mother into reality.

Maybe she never got the chance to have her dream wedding. However, she shouldn't force upon you. Confront her and tell her that she has to back off or you can't invite her to your wedding. From what I read it seems you have been avoiding doing so.

  Krajjan  |  9

And perhaps tell your planner that they need to do their job and comply with your wishes or they'll be out on their ass for failing to meet their employer's expectations. If I painted a room red that the homeowner wanted blue because their crazy mother said so, I'd be repainting that shit for free and buying the paint.

  Stardew  |  19

I agree with #4. If you're paying the planner, your mom has no say unless you ask for an opinion. If it were my mom, she would be removed from any sort of wedding planning. This will be your day, not hers.

  Mioko_fml  |  6

53 I think the difference between what you said and what 39 said was, the way you said it was like saying mom want OP to have a perfect wedding for OP. What 39 said was, mom was planning the wedding indirectly, for herself, not really for OP. At least that's what I thought when I read the two comments.

By  naya_bingi  |  11

My aunt was like that about my pregnancy :/
Poor kid had his life planned out before he even came into the world.
She went so far as to try to get in the room while I was pushing him out lol

  spazz666  |  18

Not really. The guy usually doesn't get very involved with the wedding planning because (and I'm assuming here) they realize the only thing that matters is that they're actually marrying the woman they love, or they really just don't care, or they just want their lady to be happy. And he's not her husband yet, just saying... And may never be if the wedding is for mom after all (;