By comeuntome - 29/11/2012 19:42 - United States
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If OP has access to car, they can always drive out to have a smoke or have sex in the car. Or take a walk around, maybe find a cheap hotel or secluded area. You make it sound like a prison.. Be a little adventurous, you should be old enough to go wherever you want.
Who ever said it was a holy house? They may just forbid all of that due to personal preferences. Maybe the smell of smoke makes them sick, or one of them is a recovering alcoholic, or they simply don't want to be woken up in the middle of the night by awkward noises. "Holy" has nothing to do with it.
FS I really have never read anything about sex being only for procreation. When reading Hebrews 13:4 it says "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral." Sexually Immorral only refers to sodomy, and many Christians branches take "Go forth and multiple" quite seriously. I know of people that would force their wives to have 13 children, or more. So, according to them you should always be having sex, because you should always be procreating. There is the "sin of Onan" which is interpreted by some as it is sinful to have sex not related to procreation, but I myself would think it would just be interpreted as sinful because he refused to get her pregnant when it was his duty. It was very popular for a man to marry his brother's widow, as seen with king Henry when he married Catherine, but after he inadequacy to produce a son, he had their marriage declared wrong because she was his brother's widow. In Corinthians 1, 7 it states "Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command," and then later, "But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn." Obviously sex without the intentions of procreation is okay if you're a Christian that follows the bible. (This wasn't to be crazy religious, for I'm not a crazy religious person. I just wanted to clear up a false notion, because it would aid to the experience of everyone, and maybe scare away the anti-sexual people that use false notions to support their hate. No, masturbating will not make you blind.)
14: ~I'm sorry, I wasn't aware that only and all Republicans are judgmental.~ You are the epitome of ignorant and it's sad that people thumb you up. You're judging that guy and an entire group based off of a stereotype; behavior you'd never get away with if it were stereotyping anyone else. You realize the only reason that whole planned parenthood controversial decision by Mitt, the only reason I can think of for your comment, was made was because of the idea that taxes shouldn't go to people's sex lives, not because its "disgusting" to have a sex life. (Personally, I wouldn't have said that about planned parenthood by the way. But clearly you misinterpreted the reasoning behind that decision and think you know the answers) Honestly, just shut up. You're the type of person that perpetuates judgements so don't try to make claims about them.
I'm sorry, are you forgetting that there are two political parties dedicated to "agreeing with each other?" I'm not sure if you're aware, but the gay-hating community makes up a small percentage of the republican platform. I've no problem with gays. I do, however, have a problem with people like you generalizing and using your sexuality as an excuse. Is it okay for a black person to call white people racists since they know a white guy that's racist? No, so stop talking.
#2 Its nice that you feel that way. A sixteen year old that's not a whore and think its disgusting that people are weak and can't go 2 weeks without that stuff. A better choice of words couldve been used but I'm happy at your "maturity". Bring on the thumbs down because I support her not being all over the place (from what I got) :)
Buy some duh
It's two weeks -_-. Get a grip. I think you can survive two weeks without any of that stuff.
Their house, their rules. Seems reasonable to me. Plus, it's only two week.
Why can't you go to the store and buy some? Do they have you on house arrest too?
Wait. They are going to forbid you from sexual relations with your spouse? Everything else seems somewhat reasonable, but I don't see how they should be able to tell you what you and your husband can or can't do behind closed doors (assuming your husband is with you, that is).
I tend to agree with you about the 'behind closed doors' sentiment but if the door is under the parents roof I would say it's reasonable that they have some say. Even if her parents were fine with it I'm not sure I feel comfortable messing around with my girlfriend at their house.
Do they have a closed door? My in-laws stick us in the living room. I can see asking someone to stay dressed if you might have to walk past them to get a glass of water. But the no drinking and smoking added to it just sound like the parents want to be in control. Renting a hotel room might make for a better trip.
Actually I can understand the no smoking thing better than the no sex. I smoke, but do not do or allow it in my house. But asking a married couple to abstain from "relations" (as long as it is in private and does not disturb others) there is no reason for that. Unlike smoking it does not affect anyone else in the house (providing the in private and does not disturb qualifiers are met).
I'm always a bit funny about these 'their house, their rules' because I can see both sides of the story and think it somewhat depends on the rule. However, I have to put this out there right now 34 - if you believe 'their house their rules' being married should have nothing to do with it. It's ridiculous. Lots of people don't get married now. I intend to marry my boyfriend but I know it won't be for about 5 years because we simply don't have the money. I hate how some people look down on a relationship and treat it like a teenage fling just because someone's not wearing a ring.