22
By Anonymous / Tuesday 15 January 2019 12:00 /
You could also like
Add a comment
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Create my account Sign in
Top comments
By  manb91uk  |  22

Sounds like you SHOULD be focusing on her... She has clearly been abused quite horrifically, and needs your support a hell of a lot more than you need to attend a party right about now...

PRIORITIES!

By  slimthundah  |  5

I don’t think OP is lamenting the fact that they can’t do anything on Christmas because they have to care for their daughter, rather, the fact that the daughters situation got so bad that this is required. That’s my interpretation of the post, and the one I hope is true.

Comments
By  manb91uk  |  22

Sounds like you SHOULD be focusing on her... She has clearly been abused quite horrifically, and needs your support a hell of a lot more than you need to attend a party right about now...

PRIORITIES!

Reply
  manb91uk  |  22

She makes it sound like a huge chore and an inconvenience... As far as I'm concerned there isn't much that's more important than ensuring the welfare of your traumatised child.

Reply
  slimthundah  |  5

I don’t think OP is lamenting the fact that they can’t do anything on Christmas because they have to care for their daughter, rather, the fact that the daughters situation got so bad that this is required. That’s my interpretation of the post, and the one I hope is true.

Reply

I seldom comment but felt I had to in face of your incredible ignorance.
It's incredibly tough being a carer more so because of idiots like you who think that the person being cared for's suffering invalidates any suffering the carer is going through.
Most people have no idea how tough it is to look after a loved one who's suffering often without help and without respite. What gives YOU the right to try and make her feel bad about missing Christmas when she may have been looking after her daughter for months without time for herself.

Stow that self judgemental moralising when you have no clue and try and be a little more empathetic eh?

Reply
  alycion  |  32

Sounded more to me that she is sad her child can’t be a kid and enjoy the festivities. Or that they can’t enjoy them together. Watching someone you love suffer is hard enough. When you get reminded of the things taken from them, it becomes unbearable. I live on both sides of that coin. And I would take on the added struggles of my loved ones if I could. Being the caregiver can be harder than being the patient sometimes.

By  simmpandher  |  24

I'm assuming she has agoraphobia. You need to be a little more empathetic in her case as she needs a ton of love to overcome her traumatic past. I wish you both the best.

Reply
  bl3ur0z3  |  16

Who says OP isn't empathetic? Giving up holiday activities to be with a family member in need shows empathy, but that doesn't make it fun or easy.

By  RichardPencil  |  27

On the plus side, you won't have to fear that she'll go into competitive eating. It's a disgusting spectacle!

Other than that, I'm so sorry and hope you can bring the abuser to justice.

By  geniusness  |  6

Family time is nice during the good times but it is during the bad times that the love amongst the family comes forth. I'm sure your love will help her come to terms with what she has undergone and lead her along path to full recovery. All the best for your beautiful family in these tough times.

By  baristalbc  |  16

Christmas is just a day. You’re focusing on the wrong thing. Too many young women do not make it out of relationships like that alive. As bad as things are, you still have her. Be grateful for that gift.

Your selfish attitude give us a clue as to what type of environment could’ve driven your girl into the arms of an abuser.