By walker - 06/07/2013 04:17 - United States
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Clearly he isn't the father. That was his first time at her place, and for the rebuttal of others who say they could have made love elsewhere, they've only been dating 3 months. It takes 9 months to conceive a child, plus the girl in this one is clearly not just a newborn baby. Elementary, my dear Watson.
Fun fact: The average gestation is 40 weeks. The average month is 4 weeks. So gestation averages 10 months, not 9. People started with the 9 months thing because most people find out they are pregnant about a month after conception and the doctor tell them they have 9 more months to go.
Huh? You've never met this girl before? You're not sure your girlfriend has a kid? What mind of relationship is this?!?
So is this an fml cause you found out your gf has a daughter.. Or is it cause it took you three months to make it around to her place??
I can imagine saying: "hey, did you know I already have a kid?" on the first date will blow some potential good boyfriends fastly away.
No. But still... it isn't that hard to understand why she did it. I've read some articles about single parents and almost all of them say that it's way harder to get a relationship, and some of them even admit they lie about it for the first dates/months, just to get a chance. I'm not defending her lying, but I can see why she did it, keeping in mind all those great guys who ran away from the moment she said she has a child.
I'm with you, 33. Yeah, putting the fact that you have a kid out there on or before the first date might ruin your chances of future dates, but if the date in question is like me, the relationship is going nowhere regardless of timing because I don't like kids and don't want to get involved with anyone who has them. Better for both parties not to waste any time with someone who is fundamentally incompatible.
That's exactly what my girlfriend told me on our first real date and I'm only 18. It didn't matter to me I still wanted to be with her, and I still am with her. I understand you may not want a child, but it's kinda hard not to love them, they're so cute! I never wanted a child until I started dating my girlfriend.
Personally I think they're disgusting little creatures, always leaking at one end or the other, but give them a couple years and they're fine. I'd go with third our forth date info about the kids. Too soon frightens suitors off, too late makes you seem like a liar and of course you'll want to take a couple dates to make sure the nice guy act isn't a cover for a sociopath before informing them about your loved ones.
Funny that never came up in three months of dating. I wonder what other kind of secrets are hidden in Pandora's box (or whatever her name is.)