Clean them, and leave them for her to put away. Then they both pitched in and her OCD won't bother her as much.

I wish that were true #22. I have OCD and someone washing the dishes will set me off. I will rewash, dry, and put them away. If someone else does that it will set me into a panic. People who don't have OCD don't understand what it does to a person that has it. Shit it takes me 20 minutes to get into the house and lock my house up because of the things I have to do just to check 2 doors and make sure those doors are locked and the doorknob isn't loose or messed up. It is exhausting and draining especially if you just want to go to bed and you can't.

If you live with someone they must love you so much - no dishes for them again! :D

You can't be a bitch just cause you're OCD. Do it yourself if you want it your way.

unless you have OCD you don't understand. Its not that she was being a bitch. Learn about the disease before you call someone a bitch because of something they cant control......

I was thinking the same thing. Surely he's seen the dishes were always put away the same way. Why wouldn't he repeat it?

#44, the point is that even if you have OCD, you shouldn't YELL at someone for doing NOTHING wrong and you should just FIX it to your liking without being a b-i-t-c-h.

OCD makes you do strange and horrible things. You wouldn't get mad at a depressive for crying or self-harming,and you shouldn't get mad at an OCD sufferer for a flare-up. You give them help and support.

As someone just said, do a bit of research on OCD before condemning someone. I don't suffer from OCD, but I have a friend who does, and she says it's akin to having a panic attack when it flares up. Her brain will not let her ignore it, and she has a very difficult time thinking clearly/rationally until she goes through her routine or fixes whatever it was that set it off. Also, there's a difference between the casual use of the term OCD meaning you like things a certain way, and the actual mental illness of OCD.

I didn't necessarily mean that it should be used as an excuse. I was mostly directing that at those implying she was just being a bitch for him not doing it right, when that wasn't the case.

Why the hell would OP say he's sorry? "Oh, I'm sorry for trying to help out a bit honey, won't happen again" fuck that. I say to OP now that you know don't do it again but by the way OP put this fml it sounds like he didn't know, don't apologize

Wtf he does care. He just didn't know she probly had a certain way of doing the dishes. Why would you even say that you sound stupid

It's not fair to call me stupid, I've been clinically diagnosed with a specific form of OCD, so while I see his side of things, I also see her side. OCD is embarrassing to deal with because you're fully aware that rationally you're making a big deal over something most people wouldn't think twice about. The husband would have known about her OCD and while I think it's a little unfair that she got upset over something the husband probably didn't realize was a huge deal (it sounds like it's the first time with the dishes), the reason I suggested he say sorry was so that he could acknowledge what was going on instead of treating her like she's crazy. I was suggesting to show some compassion and empathy to her. Maybe I worded that wrong the first time, but it's no reason to call me stupid.

I don't understand why everyone is downvoting you. Do you guys not realize OCD is named compulsive for a reason? Also, how on earth can someone be MARRIED and not know how the dishes go in the cupboard? It means he has either never put away/taken out a dish ever during their relationship, or he doesn't give an F about her feelings. Neither of which are acceptable. So yes, he deserved it.

Nicely said.

#49, where does it say in the fml that OP treated her like she was crazy? Yes, it's compulsive, but you still don't yell at people when they didn't do anything wrong. If I saw dishes neatly lined up and whatnot, I would just assume the person who put them away is neat and tidy. SORRY if OP's supposed to automatically know it's her tick. See how stupid it sounds for you to expect him to know, especially since it's an inconspicuous thing.

I would hope OP knew of the "tick" since it was his wife. If my husband didn't know my OCD ticks I would be a little more concerned with the inattentive husband. Should she have yelled? No. Was it possibly out of her control? Yes. I've had episodes and couldn't control my break down.

I don't know what you mean when you say how can someone be married and not know how the dishes go in the cupboard. In my house and every house I've been too the cups just go in the cupboard, there is no particular way they are organized.

It's not that she wants it her way, per say, but she can't help fixing it. It's frustrating when somebody as close as your husband can't even remember things should be a certain way and you to take everything out and do again.

I am the exact same way and just have to tell myself that he was trying to do something sweet. OCD really can eat at you and unfortunately its not something you can turn off and on.

Just to let everyone know, You don't have OCD. You have OCD when your doctor announces that you do. Actual OCD is far off from what people of the internet talk about. The closest thing you have to an actual "disorder" is OCPD. And OCPD is also far from what you are feeling. You just like things organized a certain way. Do your research internet and lets have a moment to think about the people that actually have OCD.

#24. as someone with OCD who has been clinically diagnosed I must say that there are many different types of OCD and people with OCD have many different kinds of cumpulsions. #6 to me does sound like she has OCD and she is correct when she says that it is very real to the person with it. OCD is very embarrassing to some people with it especially when people don't believe that they actually have it. So please try not to be so harsh about it

You are SO CORRECT

Nicely done thumbs up to you.

24 I have medically diagnosed OCD and I have very few compulsions. I'm all obsessions and anxiety. It does really bother me when people are like "hurr I tidied my book case alphabetically, I'm so OCD". It's insulting to real people's suffering. As far as OP, it's hard to know if his wife really does suffer or not. If she does, he would have known and should have made the effort to avoid putting her through that. But there's every possibility she's just a pedantic bitch.

The reverse is also true though, I insist on doing the dishes at home because I like it done a certain way while my wife is better at other chores.

There have one more

Guys have OCD too, primarily its women, but there is a flip side to every coin.

You really think every single woman has a debilitating mental disorder that requires you to do things like scrub your hands until they're raw?