By Beantown girl - United States
Today, I was using my boyfriend's phone to call my mom. A text message arrived from "Christina" that said, "Just put the kids to bed, come over." He swears they're only work buddies, but refuses to tell her he has a girlfriend, to avoid making things weird at work. We've been together two years. FML
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  starrnao  |  15

Men and women can't be "close buddies." If this guy cares enough about his coworker to neglect his relationship, he's obviously looking for something on the side.

  nalia18  |  8

Its probubly just me but if my bf did that to me i would have stolen his phone pretending he must have left it at work, followed him to work, find that chick and start texting her nasty things and if she replies to them in a nasty way i would give him his phone back and tell that chick she doesnt have to worry bout being compitition.... Thats just me though

  catatonicsleep  |  17

68, there's nothing wrong with men being friends with women, but if he did just want to be her friend he would have told her years ago that he had a girlfriend, if they were just friends it wouldn't make work weird at all that he has a girlfriend. and after 2 years you would think he would introduce his girlfriend to his close friends.

  XxxT3rr4xxX  |  25

Time to dump him

By  flockz  |  19

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.. Show it anyway

  flockz  |  19

Comment moderated for rule-breaking.. Show it anyway

  Nutty4Muffs  |  3

For once flock, I'm going to have to retort on your comment, instead of praising you for being ohsofunny. You didn't read it a different way, you just misunderstood it. Then you, understandably, got butthurt. Simple mistake and I still love you.

  NuTrees  |  9

Flocks I understand you. I can see where you're coming from. It did sound like a married couple trying to get frisky.

But You want to know who the real idiot is here? OP for staying with someone who denies her.

  lunamoon_fml  |  0

I'm reading it as she's babysitting, just put the kids to sleep so she can have the guy there now, a married couple (assuming they live together) wouldn't really say "come over" like it's her house he's going to, could be the girls kids and if it is her kids he's a huge jerk for playing a mother/children like that

  juwood  |  7

No flockz, you fucked up on reading this FML. Instead of trying to put the blame elsewhere, why not instead act like a productive member of society and just admit you're wrong. Idiot.

  KYLAisaBITCH  |  4

Actually that is not completely true. My husband used to be a player, and cheat on his girlfriends. He is now married to me and I know for a fact he doesn't cheat.
So how is it "once a cheater, always a cheater"?

  poorjudgement  |  26

I don't want to be rude, but we can positively know only that something happens, not that it not happens.

And also, cheating is question of principles and morality, so it is unlikely to develop if it doesn't exist, as it is a fact that people are who they are, and when we say: "it is so unlike them", that probably means that it is actually, just like them, but that we don't really know them or don' want to ancknowledge their bad sides.

So, yes, once a cheater always a cheater is truth, although two of you could be exception that proves the rule. And I hope for you it is lilke that. But it still doesn't change fact that there is something fishy with OP's BF and Christina the "Work Buddy".

  akayc32  |  0

4, not at all true. There are reasons why people cheat, change the reasons, repair the situation and they can change. The saying can be refuted by another-"people change". Plus there are several versions of cheating, some believe lusting after another is cheating and others believe having intercourse with multiple people is okay of you only love one person--and their partners either agree or disagree.

People make choices, but it doesn't mean they'd always make the same choice again. OPs situation is different, if her BF is refusing to tell someone about her, then regardless if he is screwing the other woman OP should take some kind of action... Like call the woman herself and make things really awkward for him at work.

  slushpup9696  |  12

92 - There is no such thing as an "exception that proves the rule". It's a nonsense phrase. The exceptions break the rule and make it invalid; they don't prove it.

If I were to say, "A, B, A, B, A, B, C" C does not prove a rule. It breaks the pattern. If anything, it disproves the rule.

  jrdirtbike114  |  2

gonna have to agree with 4. i had the "perfect" relationship with my girlfriend of 4 years and we were highschool sweethearts and i was about to propose, and she cheated on me. i forgave her thinking "it was a mistake i won't happen again." she then cheated on me 4 more times.