By whatdidido - 06/05/2019 18:05 - United States - Conover
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Even if it did trigger alarm bells for her, she could have suggested an alternate meetup, like go for coffee or something.
Yeah, that as a first suggestion isn't going to inspire confidence for thinking of second options. Nothing will kill other options like first suggesting that they want to take you to a secluded area where no one could find you if something happened. Even a a second option might make them worry about going on a hike or camping with the person. First impressions matter.
I’m not suggesting crap after that. I’m breaking contact. Too many weirdos to take a chance.
wow. so we get punished for trying to do something you say you like. Yes there are weirdos. but why list it multiple times? I get that women's minds jump to worst case but you can still suggest McDonald's meet up. especially if things were going well and that was the first and Only red flag. there might have been others up to this point.
As a woman when the alarm bells go off we don’t say well let’s suggest something else we run because no offense but there are way too many men out here sexually assaulting women. Who take their time & establish themselves as good guys. Women face many safety issues when it comes to dating so we take more precautions. Who knows maybe she had a bad experience & won’t make it again.
That sounds like an overreaction. Is there a dick pic you’re not mentioning?
It’s not an extreme reaction when you look at the rates of rape & sexual assault. What makes you think a woman with concerns for her safety would meet a strange man she’s never met physically to go hiking in a secluded area? I’m seriously asking you why would you think that’s a safe thing to do just because you had a conversation with for a while?
As a woman on a dating site, may I offer some possible insight? Just because you thought the conversation was going well doesn't mean she felt the same. She may have already been on the fence about you and suggesting to meet up for a fairly secluded walk was probably the final red flag. First time meetings are best in public and low key. Think meeting for coffee, or even a lunch date.
And had she gone and been raped or worse, she'd have been told 'she should know better' than to meet a stranger in a secluded place . Would be lovely to be a man and not constantly have to worry about being attacked. In the meantime, can you finally understand this is a woman's reality FFS