By short&stout - 26/08/2017 20:00
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Hang out with her and you’ll look skinny. And when I say “hang out,” I mean “associate with.” I’m sure both of you are hanging out of your bikinis anyways.
I think she is happy that woman are wearing what they want instead of wearing what society deems acceptable for their body type. Don't be a offended she saw ( even though bigger ) you aren't at your ideal weight, it was probably your lack of confidence above anything else.
I know it really sucks to feel all vulnerable and self-conscious (I never, never wear a bathing suit in public), and I know it's easy to say "well, at least I'm not as ugly/fat/gross as THAT person" as a defense mechanism. But try to catch yourself and fight that urge. A lot of people (yourself included!) are going to have feelings about your body, both positive and negative, but none of those have any bearing on whether or not you deserve to have a good time at the pool with your kids. /peptalkmode done. Yes, I know I get too preachy about this, I just have a lot of feeeeeeeeelings.
Props to you for facing your fear and taking your kids swimming. Although if you're scared of what people will think of you and then have the fear validated by someone bigger calling you a 'big girl' then you can either do something about it and lose weight or accept who you are and forget about what other people think. If you go swimming regularly you might find that you do both.