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By Humiliated & Heart-Broken / Wednesday 30 July 2014 04:41 / United States
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my bf was the first one to say it to me and I just stared at him and was like "oh... honey... I like you a lot too" and kissed and hugged him haha he definitely knew I wasn't ready though and gave me patience and time :) it was such a surprise. I didn't think he'd say it first but apparently statistics show that men will likely say it first (3-4 months into the relationship) than women (5-6 months in).

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I hope you don't meet a guy that doesn't want to say it first for fear of scaring you off #51, that could get rather drawn out and awkward :)

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#51- I feel you. There is nothing scarier than being the first one to say the L word. It is too easy to get hurt when you expose your deepest feelings.

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No. No it's not. My girlfriend told me she loved me before I told her. I explained to her that I'm not ready to say it until I know that I love her because I feel it's not a word that should just be tossed around. Now I'm in the greatest relationship I've ever had and with the one I want to marry. So no, just because he didn't say it back does not mean the relationship has to be doomed, but he could at least have given OP an explanation to why he didn't say it back.

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You make a very good point #12 but at least you were respectful in your answer to your girlfriend. I also applaud your honesty and maturity when facing a situation that can be quite uncomfortable. However OP's boyfriend's answer was quite inappropriate. I mean I can understand he was surprised, but instead of dealing with it, he makes a fart noise and asks if he could get chicken... That's an emotional slap in the face.

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I agree with #12 - when I finally said it to my BF after 1 year & 6 months he basically pretended he didn't hear it. A week later he told me in the sweetest way that he felt the same... which I prefer as the immediate response would feel expected rather than heartfelt. We are still very happy and in the fourth year :)

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#4 is not necessarily wrong... He was probably referring to the response being so epically immature rather than just the fact that OP's boyfriend didn't say 'I love you' back.

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Agreed. If a girl I've been dating for only like a month or less said that then that would make me kind of uncomfortable.

The first time is always the scariest. Sorry, OP! Since that word scares you, I'm assuming you guys were dating long enough for that word to be appropriate.

Maybe it's just to early for him to say the L word and he couldn't think of any other way to avoid any further conversation about it. Anyway I'm sorry for you OP!

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Having unprotected sex while being a teenager is what causes teenage pregnancy. Nothing else. It's not as if being committed activates a secret hormonal response that prevents you from getting knocked up.

I said it too soon once, it sort of sprang out of my mouth before my brain could tell me to shut the hell up, his response was to widen his eyes in panic and say 'eh?!'. It was never mentioned again until a couple of months later when he said it when he was ready to. Don't be too disheartened :)

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