By OverIt - 25/02/2014 22:24 - United States - Winchester
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I think its awesome that you waited till marriage... but you probably should have talked about what you were hoping for 'intimately' before hand..
Just like everything, it has its pros and cons. I have two sisters. Both them and their husbands waited until marriage to have sex. As commented further down, one is having a difficult time in finding out their sex drives are opposite. She takes it personal that her husband doesn't want to have sex with her because his lack of drive. However, my other sister is still in martial bliss for years! It's not for everyone but if chastity until marriage is in your personal beliefs for religion (or whatever reason) I've seen that it can work in some cases. Mine included. I've only slept with one person and we're still together.
That's great it worked in that situation and I'm not knocking that. If it's tied by religious beliefs or what have you great. Though it can be problematic in general and I think should be talked about before marriage if anything to find out if your expectations and kinks are inline with them or not. Though given from the FML the guy wanted more of a companion and it's important to talk about that stuff beforehand.
37, I agree that it works for some people and not for others. My husband and I didn't wait, but we did know we would get married from early on. He's the only person I've slept with too, and we're still really happy. But definitely important to talk about before making a big commitment. Some people just aren't compatible I guess. And maybe your sister's husband has low testosterone or something. I know it's awkward, but perhaps seeing his doctor and trying a medicine would make his sex drive higher. That is, if he wants it to be higher. Hopefully they can work it out.
Yes, 94 He has thyroid problems. Wish he would step up and see a doctor for my sister's sake. She suffering because of his doctor fears. I never say a word to him about it because I don't get involved in their personal business. They'll have to find they own way to work things out. (:
Hopefully you guys can meet in the middle OP because every marriage needs a healthy sex life or you'll eventually look for that type of companionship elsewhere but lets hope that doesn't happen...sorry OP :(