By Anonymous - 22/09/2017 04:30

Today, I saw a creepy guy grab a woman's ass on the bus, so I caught his arm and put him in an arm lock, only for the woman to hit me in the head with her handbag. Turns out they were a married couple on their way home to have sex, and who couldn't resist a quick grope during the journey. FML
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While your intervention was done with good intentions, it's best to not start things out with physical violence, because you can wind up with assault or battery charges. If you can, get close to the suspected attacker and victim, and loudly ask the victim if they are okay, or if the groper is bothering them. If need be and possible without physically contacting them, place yourself between them. Getting a photo of the attacker before interceding is also a good idea, as it make it more likely that they can be located. If the attacker become physically violent with you or the victim before you or the victim does, you are less likely to have charges filed against you.

Why would you immediately escalate to physical violence

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While your intervention was done with good intentions, it's best to not start things out with physical violence, because you can wind up with assault or battery charges. If you can, get close to the suspected attacker and victim, and loudly ask the victim if they are okay, or if the groper is bothering them. If need be and possible without physically contacting them, place yourself between them. Getting a photo of the attacker before interceding is also a good idea, as it make it more likely that they can be located. If the attacker become physically violent with you or the victim before you or the victim does, you are less likely to have charges filed against you.

Why would you immediately escalate to physical violence

because violence solves everything. duh! problem solving 101.

Shouldn't you first read the women's facial expressions and body language first? Its not hard to tell if they are freaking out, telling if they are interested in you is another story. lol

Except that there's a stupid amount of social pressure on women to not "make a big deal" if they are molested or groped on public transit, so no, it isn't obvious. Especially since people that are being sexually harassed usually are afraid of the incident escalating, and their attacker getting angry can lead to that, meaning that an unfortunate amount of people stay silent and "deal" with it out of fear or shame.

Body language is spoken by reflexes and most of the time is not voleentary. She might not speak up or confront the pervert, but the language will definitely be there.

Indeed.Someone may get turned on and enjoy the process when groped by strangers.

No,women do not like or get turned on because some random idiot like ass grabbin. Just because you think women like it does not mean that it's true.

I am happy that you stepped up to defend the sexual harassment/groping. But I sound like you acted to fast. You should have waited to what the women's reaction was. Sometimes people don't realize where PDA is appropriate.

I just don't understand why so many people have this uncontrollable hero complex cause of them to lash out with physical violence without even knowing what situation they are entering. It's a great way to get arrested for assault.

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yeah you deserved it. who thinks its a good idea to put a stranger in headlock when there was nothing out of the ordinary happening? youre lucky they were too horny to think about suing

You are the creepy guy for turning to violence so quickly!!!

It's really great to see some people don't just stand by and do nothing when they see something wrong in public and I hail you for that! But like many have pointed out you could have waited to see the woman's reaction or approached first and talked to the person calmly or asked if anything is wrong and you would have found out that they were a couple and that he wasn't just a creep harassing her.

As someone who is familiar with self defense, the first thing I always say is “don’t make the situation worse.” Intervening on behalf of a third party is a risky endeavor at best. Sometimes distress is obvious, other times you need to be more discerning. You’re lucky it didn’t escalate any further as depending on where you are, the dude you headlocked would have been within HIS rights to do so.