By unknown - 02/11/2013 21:10 - Canada - Courtenay
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35- not entirely true. I was 15, almost 16, when I got with my first boyfriend. My mom never gave me the "sex talk" until after I confessed that I was no longer a virgin. And even then it wasn't a good talk. She's never been good with anything sexual. When she did talk to me, it was one of those "sex is bad and will kill you" talks. I'm a lot older, and she STILL talks that way about sex even though I'm engaged and have a daughter. Anyways, I got off track. My point is that some parents find the topic of sex a very difficult subject to bring up and try to wait until the last possible moment to start taking about it, so it doesn't necessarily mean that she's VERY young, though it is a good possibility.
My first and only real sex talk with my dad was when I was 16. He turned to me during a baseball commercial and said, "If you ever plan on having sex, it might be wise to get you on the pill." He then turned back to the TV and never brought up the topic every again.
This reminds me about when mom had my first "sex talk", I was about 4 and asked where babies come from. She took 2 dolls and pressed them together multiple times. I didn't understand until about 6 years later when I had my first sex ed class. :^| Ok, so the more explained sex talk I got was a few years later, but I still thinks it counts as my first...
You sir, are way too late for the sex talk! Why would you wait until she has a boyfriend??
I wondered this, too. My mom figured if I was old enough to ask, I was old enough to know. At six I learned the biological definition of sexual intercourse. She gave honest, simple answers to my questions--no more, no less. By the time I began dating I knew what I was/wasn't ready for, birth control, condoms, even how to say "no" if I was uncomfortable. I'll do the same for my kids when they start asking.
If she wasn't joking then all that's left is to make sure she understands the seriousness of the matter and help her be ready.
There is nothing shameful in having an abortion. Politics aside, depending on how young Op's daughter is, she could very well be at risk if she kept the baby. I know a girl in our neighborhood who had parents who insisted she keep the baby. She ended up almost dying trying to keep the baby and had a miscarriage at 5 months. She was scarred. Op should put aside his anger and talk to his daughter about what she wants and what is best for her, the family, and the potential child. If the daughter is under 15, then it is not recommended she have the baby. If she is 16 and older, she might feel she is mature enough to have the baby and want to keep it. As easy as "have an abortion" or "keep the baby" is to say, it depends entirely on the family and the person who is pregnant. The daughter should have the final say, because it is her life and body.
#45, shame on you. Yes there is always adoption and a family who wants a child, but what about the already hundreds of kids in the USA waiting to be adopted? Also, if it is a health risk, emotional or physical, to the girl, no one should ever have to go through with giving birth if it is unsafe for them too. If she is a young girl, her body has not fully developed enough for her to safely carry a baby. She could either lose the baby, die herself, or both. So please next time keep your pro life opinion to yourself. Sometimes abortions are the only option.
45- it all depends on op and who they are. The age matters, the body could reject the baby, how mature they feel about having the kid or if they don't want it. I understand where you come from with the anti abortion and that's your preference and opinion on it but I would say that if they are very young, then they should go for the abortion. I know somebody who died giving childbirth to a still born and she was 13.