By happycow122 - 20/06/2015 20:54 - United States - Lafayette
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It's a sad world when Facebook relationships are more important than real life ones.
Yeah, probably shouldn't be making assumptions when I don't have a lot of information to work with. It's true protection fails and maybe she knows this man fairly well and he ended up being a jerk and ran when shit hit the fan. OP I honestly hope you can get things figured out and give the child a good life. If the father keeps trying to dodge his responsibilities, take his ass to court. Good luck
Does he know you're pregnant? Then he'll HAVE to accept your friend request. It's his responsibility as the father of your baby to be friends with you over social media.
Is Facebook really that important? That you base him on the fact that he won't accept your Facebook request?
sheesh people the keyword in this FML is 'EVEN'. I think what op's trying to say is that if the guy doesn't even accept a friend request (a meaningless task no friend is bothered to do), he probably won't and isn't going to be there for her. He won't even do such a small thing not to talk about take responsibility and take part in hers and the child's life.
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I won't say YDI for a one night stand since that is absolutely your decision, but not using double and triple protection? Of course accidents happen, but two or three methods of contraception combined usually don't result in pregnancy so you probably deserve it. Please consider an abortion if you're both this immature :/
Fun fact: There are only two 100% without fail ways for a woman to prevent pregnancy. The first one is total abstinence from any sexual contact that could result in pregnancy including, but not limited to, intercourse. The second is a bilateral oophorectomy (surgical removal of the ovaries). A woman who has had a tubal ligation and even a hysterectomy can still get pregnant. Tubal ligation prevents pregnancy by both stopping an egg from traveling down the fallopian into the uterus and stopping sperm from travelling up the fallopian tube to the egg. Fallopian tubes can grow back and the surgery can otherwise fail. If a woman has her uterus surgically removed, but her ovaries are intact, a fertilized egg can implant somewhere else in her body, resulting in an ectopic pregnancy. It's literally a 1 in 1,000,000 chance and ectopic pregnancies can't be carried to term, but there have been multiple cases of it reported. My point is, don't presume to know anything regarding OP's sex life or her use of protection. You weren't there, you have no way of knowing. It's just rude.
The truth is that the pill is around 99% effective, condoms are 95-98% when used properly (they're often not though, crucial steps like holding the tip to keep air out are often missed), things like spermicides on condoms help. The amount of people who claim they are pregnant after using both suggests many weren't using them correctly.