By Sniffles - 26/04/2014 12:28 - Ireland
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Gyee oops well good luck if she decides to keep the child I hope you'll be there for her, a lot of women are abandoned during pregnancy. Don't make her go through this alone and GOOD LUCK AGAIN!
Keeping and raising a child when you're not ready for it is also a huge decision. And adoption isn't always the best option because there are already so many kids who live their whole lives in shitty foster care and never even get adopted. Abortion is typically not taken lightly. Nobody ever says "Whoops, I'm pregnant again. Time to get another abortion." Most everyone who gets an abortion takes it very seriously and I think the thing people forget is that it's actually very emotionally challenging for a woman to get an abortion. So when she does it she's very sure about it. They know how serious it is.
Maybe you should've been more specific. And you could use condoms. It never hurts to use both types of contraception. I have to say you deserved it.
Really? If a guy asks a girl that he's having sex with if she's on the pill, there is only one type of pill he's talking about. You're a girl according to your profile, #3, be honest - if anyone asked you if you're on the pill, would there even be the slightest bit of confusion what that person was talking about? Sounds like OP's girlfriend is either a complete airhead or was trying to con him into parenthood.
No form of contraception is 100%, #108. Not even taking the pill AND wearing a condom. Sure, you're increasing your chances, but how much? The pill is already over 99% effective, so putting on a condom on top of that is going to give you what - another 0,1%? Statistically, that's hardly going to make a dent. What condoms are really good at, however, is preventing STDs - so if you and your partner have not been tested and are not monogamous, you should definitely wear them. In a commited relationship, the pill is absolutely enough, and every girl old enough to have sex knows what the pill IS. You absolutely cannot blame OP for thinking a less than one percent chance of knocking her up was good enough.
Actually 115, the failure rate of both a condom and birth control pills are .01%. That being said, the failure of a condom is independent of Everett the birth control would fail, so the probabilities are multiplicative and thus the probability of both failing is .01% times .01% = 1 in 1 million.
I've always heard condoms are "Up to" 99% effective if used properly, some studies have suggested less real world safety, most pills are 99.5%-99.9% if used properly in test subjects, but in real life where hormones may not be perfect (studies they check before), and people may not take it exactly on time (even an hour out can effect in some cases, to a tiny degree but still), realistically you should work on 99% for the pill. If you can have one a (hormonal) IUD is 99.9% effective or more, but of course women have gotten pregnant on them.
There's no proof OP didn't use condoms. It's possible for a pregnancy to happen even with both. I'm just saying I think people need to stop telling OP to use both, because for all you know, he could've worn condoms every single time. I'm not saying he did; just trying to make a point.
Aww good luck dealing with that genius for the next 18 years.
Of course it will be seen as something negative in poor circumstances. Are people supposed to be like, "Woohoo! I'm so happy to have knocked up a girl who I'm not ready to commit to, when I'm broke, and not mentally or emotionally ready to raise a child yet!"
Unplanned parenthood has NEVER been a source of excitement. Getting knocked up outside of marriage used to turn you into a social outcast no one would touch with a ten foot pole, unless you had enough money to outsource the child to a baby farm. That part has gotten a lot better in most (but not all) countries, but people still aren't excited about an unexpected amount of responsibility that they are most likely not ready for.