By bummed out step monster - 24/06/2015 04:02 - United States - San Francisco
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Perhaps you should talk to her and try to improve your relationship!
Depending on how long ago the father in this situation got divorced, the soon-to-be step-daughter may still have issues accepting both parents moving on and getting remarried. It may not be that the daughter doesn't enjoy OP at all, just that she wants her parents together again more. Assuming that it was probably just a divorce. OP also never said the daughter doesn't like her so it's tough to say.
As someone who has divorced parents, this sound like an awful idea. If it's obvious that the kid doesn't like you, just move on. I inherently dislike all step parent figures purely for the sake of disliking them. They often are obnoxious and feel as if they should have control over you. If you were to talk to her, she might see it as trying to take a motherly role, which, imo, would only escalate her disliking of you. It's best to let her accept the situation at her own pace
Most people disagreeing with #54 probably don't have divorced parents, but I do think they are being a little immature. I have many friends with divorced parents (because, sadly, divorce is the new trend) and they love their step parent/soon-to-be-step parent/partner-of-their-parent. Step parents obviously have to try a lot harder to have the children listen to them and see them as a parental figure so instead of hating them, thank them for even trying.
Maybe step mother daughter bonding time? Or you could rave about how wonderful she is while youre on the phone, guilt is a wonderful thing.
Yeah..because giving a guilt trip to a child of divorce is a wonderful idea...as far as we know, her mother could have passed away. Regardless of why this child's parents are no longer together, she probably is already under quite a bit of mental stress. Playing head games with her would just be cruel.
I agree with 36, my mother has now remarried and I do dislike him, I won't lie. However, he is trying his best and it is just plain cruel to be bitter and ruin his day, he didn't spilt up my parents and didn't ask for his previous wife to leave him. People can be so selfish sometimes, what a miserable life it'd be to spend it ruining another's.
I wouldn't say she is a bitch. It is kind of a nasty thing for her to say but a lot of kids have a hard time accepting their parents moving on. A lot of people really don't like change and this is a huge change in her life I would imagine. Especially if she was close to her mother. Hopefully you guys will form a bond over time OP..