By howtobesingle - 07/04/2016 02:45 - Norway - Oslo
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Sloppy seconds? If it isn't the second thought, and her friend introduced them to each other, they might get along together. Maybe one guy is more compatible with OP and the second with her friend, or maybe both are not for OP... But I don't see the reason to fret if her friend is going out with guys on dates, rejects him to choose the other, but set the rejected guy up. Everyone has his or her qualities... That's the equivalent of saying OP has to go out with a virgin. All other men are spoiled since they were rejected once. Also FYI to the reader, I never said getting with or being a virgin is a must, it's up to you.
It's not necessarily the case that she's cheating or playing them both, she could be casually dating them with both partners aware of it. I've dated a couple of guys at the same time before, they both knew I was seeing other people and were fine with it; after all it was only casual. If she was leading both on with the impression that it was exclusive and rather more serious then I'd agree with you, but there's not enough info here to start passing judgement really.
You'll find someone :) but tbh, I enjoyed being single after having an awful relationship. I grew more as a person as I didn't have anyone to hold my hand through things. But if you are wanting to meet someone, don't do it just because you don't want to be single anymore (that can seem desperate). Join some new clubs, take up new hobbies, or if you're no good at speaking to strangers in person (like me), try online dating :)
There isn't enough information to know if she's cheating. Seeing 2 people doesn't necessarily mean it's cheating. It could be just a casual dating thing, and everyone is aware nothing is serious yet. However, if she's leading both on with the idea that they're the only one and exclusive, then it's wrong and not ok.
Honestly, I think you are probably better off than her in the long-term.
If she's seeing two guys, I'd say that she doesn't deserve either of them.