By lakatkat - 19/08/2009 04:13 - United States
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Typical bestfriend bitchiness. Don't feel bad about it. Just don't bother inviting her and keep in your our own business for a while. Make her notice you, instead of you running after her. I'm so sorry. She needs some major attitude from you.
I definately disagree #1. It's HER money and she can do whatever she wants with it. Odds are, she just said she couldn't go see OP because she didn't want to hurt her feelings, but really didn't want to spend that kind of money to do so. If she wants to turn around and spend the same amount to go to a concert, that's her choice. She doesn't owe OP any explanation or apologies for how she spends her money. Just like OP doesn't owe her an explanation for why SHE can't visit.
harsh much #1? first of all, OP, did you even CONSIDER that maybe she bought the concert ticket before you asked her to come see you? and honestly, a concert is kind of a once in a life time thing...or at least, it's rare. she can come see you when she can afford it again. and honestly, you seem kind of whiny for just expecting her to spend her money to come see you all the time. did you think that maybe you could have bought a ticket to come see her instead? i mean, it's not like she told you she was busy. she told you she couldn't afford it.
you guys are really dumb. IT'S THE POINT THAT SHE LIED TO HER, SAYING THAT SHE "CAN'T" AFFORD IT AND THEN GETS THAT CONCERT TICKET WHICH COSTS THE SAME PRICE. It is her own life but she lied and that's messed up. AND YES, CONCERT TICKETS CAN BE EXPENSIVE AND IT CAN BE THE SAME AS A PLANE TICKET.
Maybe she didn't had money because she already bought this concert ticket...
z0MG!! Is she going to see Hannah Montana!? HANNAH is the best, like OMGZ!!! I would rather see Hanners than you!!11one!! /sarcasm ............................................... Anyways, she could see you another time, but maybe this is her only chance to see the artist performing.....it isn't always about you, ya know!
I hate it when people bitch like this. Your friend isn't obliged to choose spending time with you over everything else they may want to do. I don't expect my friends to justify themselves if they want to do something without me. Seriously, get a grip. Oh, and at the risk of being called sexist, I've noticed this is almost always a girl thing.
zomg you sexist =P I definitely agree with you though. The only reason the OP could be justified in bitching is if the two had made close-to-definite plans on the friend flying out and then at the last minute the friend backing out; but that doesn't seem to be the case. Or if they see each other once a year, but then, the OP could fly out to the friend instead, if she has the finances to do so
Maybe now wasn't a good time for her to be visiting, and traveling would actually cost TWICE as much, maybe more, what with the plane ticket BACK since I doubt she'll stay with you forever, and any other travel ideas she might have to buy to take with her. And if you're bestfriends, then stop worrying about how much you see her and being insecure by thinking she doesn't want to see you. I haven't seen my bestfriend in a year, and that last weeklong visit was the first time I had seen her in 3 years before that. But you're right SimpleSimon, friendship problems like this usually involve girls. Most of us tend to read into relationship things more than guys. I'd be really surprised to see an FML like this written by a guy, honestly. And if someone calls you a sexist about it, they need to lighten up. It hurts the "sexism" argument when people overuse it.
She might have bought the concert ticket way ahead of time. But hey, maybe you could take that step and visit HER instead of EXPECTING her to visit you. Unless you have that sort of thing wheere you visit her, she visits you, you visit her, etc. Then that really sucks.