By Random - 31/01/2012 14:41 - United States
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Yeah but there's no way to tell how the relationship was. If it was a long one then that's pretty f'ed up but if they only say each other for a month or two, it was still a dick move by the mom but I can't blame the sister for falling in love.
I see nothing wrong with it if the sister #2 asked sister #1 if she could go out with her ex, and sister #1 was alright with it. But in this case (this FML) it is fucked up! This is a prime example of how hatred can form between the 2 sisters. I personally couldn't even date anyone that one of my friends have dated, let alone see a girl that went out with my brother... just knowing that they most likely did stuff would make me feel ill! *shudders*
105- It isn't a selfish thing at all. It is really just an unspoken rule that no one should ever date their friend's/sister's ex. There would be too many emotions brought up from it; so avoiding the ex is the best and only answer in this situation. If society doesn't carry that tradition any longer, I feel sorry for the next generation. Where has the respect gone?!
115- Then you can be an exception to the rule. Guys generally will not have bottled up feelings about a past relationship or have jealousy issues. For a lot of girls, this kind of thing would bring up way to many emotions. OP's sister should have at least talked to her about it first! Seriously! Just because this happened to you and you were not upset that someone disrespected you, doesn't mean OP can't be upset that she was disrespected.
Well was it a recent ex or an old ex that ended badly? Cuz if it was just an ex and your over it idk why your sister can't be happy, and you just be happy for them. This FML needs more info.
Yes but that doesn't change the fact that the OP's relationship is OVER. If she had any feelings left over then she should have tried to get the relationship back. But if the guy doesn't want to have anything with OP then she has to move on. She can't force him to not love her sister.
#56 - You said she can't force her ex to not love her sister, yet the OP "has to move on"? HAS to? No, I don't think so. Also, trying to reconstruct a relationship is not as easy as you make it sound, especially if, like you said, the guy didn't want anything to do with OP. Even then, why would he marry the sister if he didn't want to do anything with OP? In the end, I still think the ex is a douche, the sister is a backstabber, and the mother is fucked up.
I'm saying that if the guy doesn't want anything with OP, then she's. Going after a lost cause. She can keep wallowing inher old feelings but what good would that do? Yes it was a complete dick move but I'm guessing that her sis and ex were dating before they decided to marry.
And I'm guessing they weren't that close to begin with if she never noticed who he's been dating or even bothered to ask who he's been with. I'm guess she never paid attention to him until this came up. Too early to tell since there's not a lot of info but hey everyones entitled to their own opinion
82- I feel like the sister and the mother are totally disrespecting OP. Even if OP was entirely over the ex, it shows no respect from the sister to date or marry the guy. And maybe the sister was keeping him a secret, or she never talks to OP? OP is not by any means in the wrong here. It's the sister and mother.
76- it would be really unhealthy for you not to move on if your ex is getting married. I agree with 56. Also if the other person doesn't want to reconstruct the relationship then it doesn't matter how hard you try it won't work if they found someone else ... Even if it's your sister in this case. Ps the mom is a bitch