By familyofpsychos - 26/10/2012 04:38 - United States - Elkhorn
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21 - There is a difference between feeling "sad" and suicide ideation. Intervention is a necessity here. Yes, most people don't go through with suicide, but you need to do everything in your power to prevent it. Prevention is key. It's like insurance: you don't need it until you NEED it.
Addendum: I know the FML doesn't say anything about suicide, but in my experience, what people with depression are willing to admit (even if just to themselves) is usually only the very tip of the iceberg. This isn't something to play around with. OP did the right thing, but now needs to go further.
26- I know the feeling there. It's a gradual process too. Left alone, it spirals down to suicide since a person doesn't feel worth it. Many stay silent, especially around pre-teen since it's the "rebellious" phase. They want to handle it on their own or again, just don't want to talk about it. To OP: I hope you went to someone else with that journal. It doesn't seem like your mother cares at this point. You sound like a good sibling, and F your sister's life if there's something that makes her feel that way constantly.
#17, I'm not so sure. Notebooks/diaries are like the internet, where the line between reality and fantasy is blurred. Just because she writes it doesn't mean she actually wants to do it. If you don't plan for your thoughts to have an audience, you might write about anything, seriously or not... That said, this FML didn't really sound like an invasion of privacy to me. It seems that OP just came across the notebook, and once you have that information, it's not really private anymore.
Your mom is out of this world. This is not a thing to make jokes about.
I've been through a lot of bad times, myself. Dark humor helps a lot when you've got nothing else. Seriously though, help is required when people stop joking. The suicide rate in the Army got so high that prevention classes became mandatory. Writing that stuff without any intention of showing it to anyone is like step 6 in the 'Bad Shit's Going Down' checklist. Show it to her school counselor.
#65, Good catch on how serious writing this is. OP did the right thing in taking it to her mother; too bad mom's in denial. Agree with OP taking the notebook to the school counselor. In the meantime, OP can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (Google it for the 800 number). They can help OP deal with both her sister and mother.
Like the posts above have said she is in denial. I've lost a few close people in my life to suicide and it is a very serious matter I would speak to the counselor at the school and even speak to the principle to try organize a meeting for your parents to alert them to the serious nature of what is happening, suicide does not have a age, gender, religion or origin of decent attached to it anyone can do it and it needs to be dealt with very quickly. I hope everything works out well for you.
I think the best way to resolve this would be to show your mum your handwriting and let her decide who wrote it.