By Anonymous - 15/01/2013 17:45 - United States
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More than a few just assumed something was wrong with him, but what if he just respected and cared about the girl to the point where he didn't want to have sex? Not all guys are sex hungry jerks that'll pounce on any opportunity to take a girl's virginity. And maybe the awkward silence was because he wasn't sure how to explain to her why he couldn't do it. Also, it could be his first time too... And he was just nervous and/or wasn't ready to have sex yet. Props to him if he was just being respectful.
How would it not have been respectful? OP was ready for sex, it's not like he pressured her into it. He was most likely nervous, or had other plans as to when to have sex. If he wanted to respect her he would have said something other than "yeah I can't do this" and be a fool sitting there awkwardly and possibly straining the relationship. But what do I know about relationships. Just sayin'
Wow... Surprising he didn't just put it in... No thinking... Sorry OP.. Now you're going to be traumatized to lose your virginity... That's lame
I thumbed my comment down as well. I had been consuming alcohol and it was a rather idiotic comment. It was not a traumatic event at all but OP will forever remember almost losing her virginity. OP, I do sincerely hope when it does happen, it is spectacular and helps you get over this FML moment.
He just may not be comfortable getting that intimate with you yet. I'm sure that he'll be ready sooner or later, so just wait a little longer.
A lot of times the girls are the ones that are too nervous and usually their partners totally respect that. Just because he's a guy doesn't mean something's totally wrong. I'm sure you love him enough to let him wait until he's comfortable. It will be better for both of you.
Wow. That's not hurtful at all. The least he could do is give a reason why.
Sometimes boys aren't ready when girls are. Be understanding, it shouldn't be awkward!
"A girl could have the most breathtaking personality in the world, but it's very VERY unlikely that a teenage lad (I'm assuming) is in a relationship for 8 months and doesn't want to have sex." I wish I could present my boyfriend to you, but he's not a member here. So sorry, you'll just have to believe the words of the girl with the most breathtaking personality (thanks for the compliment!), who was during those seven/eight months never pushed into sex. Now that I'm being nostalgic and thinking about those days, I wonder whether OP has shared any sexual experience with her partner. From no sex to bang bang penetration sex is a huge step, maybe too huge for him. If you haven't done it already, I suggest to start with the light (but still very pleasurable) variations of sex, aka fingering, blowjobs and oral sex.
Don't be too hard on him it's probably a personal promblem show him you don't care about his "size"
Big penis, small penis, average penis, sometimes it's not about how big your dick is, maybe you just don't feel like its the right one? I've turned down girls for sex, and I'm happy I did, because I gave that special card to someone who actually holds an enormous value to me.