I think it's sweet your mom cares for you like that.

His mom took it upon herself to pack his apartment without talking to him about the situation first. That's not sweet, that's crazy.

she had good intentions, but she should have told you about what she saw before she packed you up.

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a ddlg relationship is about that. but also about him taking care of you. if he doesn't get that then he doesn't need to be called Daddy. maybe look up ddlg and explain how it works

God damn, I have no idea what you people are saying?? I'm also too drunk and don't give enough fucks to look any of it up...

Seriously, don't call hin Daddy if you won't accept your part in the dd/lg relationship. There's no point calling him that, giving him hope in giving you a guiding hand if you're unwilling to listen.

-sigh-

First up, ddlg is a subtype of BDSM, usually more related to the Master/servant and discipline aspects.

Two, the guideline about any kind of BDSM is safe, sane, and consensual. Even if partners decide to not use the "safe" part, consent much be given with full knowledge of what the session will contain. If either partner develops a different desire to incorporate into the scene, it's their responsibility to inform the other party.

Three, not telling a partner about a change in plans and not giving them the chance to discuss it, and simply springing it on them invalidates previous consent.

Four, taking BDSM practices out of the bedroom and incorporating it into everyday life isn't for everyone, and should never be done without the non-dominant person's consent, because it is a breach of the play session.

Five, NoEmotions obviously doesn't enjoy the non-bedroom age play, and it in fact makes them feel angry and like they are being condescended to, which means any good dominant would STOP. A dominant s desires to assert them self should never come to fruition if it means causing harm of any kind to their partner(s), whether through bad consent protocol or not stopping a session when the bottom is asking for worse injuries than is safe.

This is actually kind of cute--at least you know mom's got your back. Hope you made her help you unpack afterwards though.

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Only if he's not also taking advantage of the situation. This guy I work with is poly. He is dating multiple women, and they are all dating multiple men. It's how some people like it.

It's your life, but personally I think your mom has the right idea

"mom we're (some flavor of open/poly)" is a hard conversation, but better than dealing with that kind of shock. (I know of which I speak, I am in a poly relationship, I've had it with 3 sets of parents now).

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I like how this comment has more down thumbs, but the comment that straight up just insults OP for being in an open relationship doesn't.

Personally, I find the "you can only love one person" view to be bullshit. You can love multiple people like a best friend. You can love both of your parents the same, and even other people (e.g., aunts and uncles, grandparents, parents of friends/partners) like parents as well. You're allowed to love multiple siblings like siblings, and even some friendships can get to that level. You can also love multiple children (biological and adopted). All of these forms of love, nobody bats an eye at. So why does everyone lose their minds at the thought of someone loving multiple people as a partner? You're bound to get some people who are like that in a species as socially dependent on others as us.

jeez, doesn't anyone have morals anymore?

The good news is that with the open relationship, your Oedipus Complex is still on the table!

Ehh why would she pack your stuff? She automatically assumes you be moving out?? Or even if not open that you can't work it out yourself?