By unknown - 27/02/2012 17:42 - United States
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Oh all the evil things you could do... I'd start with calling his command and informing them of his extra marital affairs, as you see the military seriously frowns upon that shit. Then, once the douchebag gets into deep shit, you can serve him with divorce papers. But remember, if you have the attorneys on the base closest to you representing you first, he has to find the expensive non-military ones. Fuck him, you can do better. And don't buy that crap about military men having a different girl in every country. Real men don't do that shit.
Actually, it's not that hard to prove at all. There needn't be pictures or even hard evidence. If his behavior is suspicious enough, such as having the girl at his place at night, or taking her out on dates, that's often evidence enough. You haven't the same freedoms in the military that you do in the civilian world; one must be above reproach when it comes to extramarital affairs. If the command thinks certain behavior is suspicious enough, or if some people are willing to give statements that they've seen the two together in compromising situations, it is at the commanders discretion. If the wronged spouse pushes the matter, often the commander is willing to make an example out of the cheating service member.
Yeah 29 real mature, fuck with a guy's career. The fact you can be charged for adultery is bull shit, it's not illegal, it's your private life. OP, take the high road here, following the advice of 29 is no better than what he did, being sneaky and underhanded behind someone's back. Seriously, why does that exist? Every other part of military law, well just about, makes sense but NJPing someone because they were unfaithful? Come on... Sorry soldier/sailor/marine/airman your career stops here because you cheated on your wife... Sorry for the rant. OP that really sucks, especially if you were completely faithful. I'm not saying it's the cause, but why wouldn't you move if it was a posting? I doubt it would have stopped him but I was just curious.
then why cheat in the first place, dude? ^^ if you are in the military, you are AWARE of the consequences and what could happen, so why even risk it? plus, i know cheating is your personal life and stuff but..why would you commit to somebody if you're not going to be faithful? i don't mean any disrespect and I respect your opinion, but this is just my view point on the subject :-)
Idk, your putting your spouse through alot in the first time by join the service. I see both sides, and agree with both sides. After i enlisted, i was made fully aware that i represent the United States Military and dont have the same rights (or laws that apply) to civilians. Cheating just makes military members look unprofessional
Marriage is more important than a career. Cheating should have even harsher consequences. Reporting a spouse for cheating isn't "sneaky' either. If it were my husband that cheated, I'd tell him that I was gonna report him. In fact, it would be the spouse who cheated that was being "sneaky." Cheating all on its own is a sneaky act of betrayal. Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't it part of the military experience to learn loyalty? If you can't even be loyal to your wife by staying faithful, then why should people think you're going to be loyal to this country and die for it while you're in the military. So cheating goes a lot deeper than just, "personal life."
Ive been thinking about this more, and i agree with a punishment. He is representing your country. He should not be going to Japan looking for a girlfriend on the side. That's almost unthinkable. Seriously, report him. Not only will he be in a world of shit, but that will make him realize how serious his actions really were. Im sorry for anyone going through something like this, let alone somebody who's waiting patiently for their husband to come home just to find out they are doing something like this.
74 you contradicted yourself when you put "being sneaky and Underhanded behind someone's back. Seriously why does it exsist?" Cheating is exactly that! Being sneaky and underhanded, anyone caught cheating should be punished. Especially someone representing our country. Logic.
Oh wow I'm so sorry. Usually it's the other way around. Either way, it still sucks :(
Wow I don't understand how come people thumb this down. I mean he is right a lot of military wife/woman go and have affairs while husband/man is away on tour of duty. That's why a lot of soldiers go on medical leave cause the stress of when they find out on top of post traumatic war syndrome. No disrespect intended but really and he even apologiZed to op.
Well you got your answer (; glad hes doing well!
Oh well, if he your husband you should have went with him. Family has the option to go
You know usually I wouldn't go against Doc Bastard but as a sailor currently overseas in Japan. My orders are unaccompanied my wife was not allowed to come with me, with that said educate yourself before speaking. Furthermore, she is not an idiot for getting cheated on it happens all the time out here. I don't approve of it but it happens.
At least you got acquainted with his girlfriend. When he starts cheating on her too you guys can be friends!