By Anonymous - 17/06/2016 03:00
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Why is this a FML? Would you have preferred more emotion? Be happy that she won't be pining after you long after you two broke it off. You're both free, congrats.
I hope she wasn't afraid of what you would do but rather that she didn't want to hurt you. If so, then good for her, a rare and valuable trait.
As honorable as this sounds, in the end it is actually more harmful to lead someone on, and draw a break up out longer than need be. What if OP haven't decided to break up, and fell more in love with her? He would have been even more heartbroken. How long would the GF have kept up the ruse? Till after an awkward proposal? A sham marriage? It is so much better to just do it, like ripping off a bandaid. Maybe noble intentions, but foolish.
It's good that she was taking the time to find a way to break up with you and trying to avoid hurting your feelings.
If there's one thing television has taught us, it's that the go-to strategy for breaking up with somebody lightly is to slowly disappoint them over a long period of time until they eventually decide to break up with you—oh, no, OP! That's… I'm /sure/ that's not what happened to you!