By Anonymous - 08/12/2012 19:30 - United States - Long Beach
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If you were distant, shouldn't you, oh I don't know, try to talk to her instead of looking at her diary? YDI
Also, why write down something you'd never want anyone to read? Same as in, don't do anything you wouldn't want published as the headlines of the newspaper-- secrets leak and people in general can't be trusted. I wrote a diary once and it had all kinds of embarrassing and personal information it and I forgot it lying at the coffee table and my mom read it. Of course I got in trouble for it. I just don't think people should write down anything personal they wouldn't want falling in the wrong hands. Write poetry, pen a novel, but nothing that can actually be traced back to you. People can take advantage of that.
Okay downvote fairies, get off my case. Would it make you downvoters mad if I mentioned I'm in med school while you're probably wasting your life away? Seriously, how pathetic do you have to be to downvote someone simply for viewing the other side of the story? If you don't agree, don't upvote, it's really that simple. Actually, you know what? Down-vote away. I'll start to give a fuck once it hurts my chances of residency. :D
Shouldn't have invaded on her privacy, maybe try talking to her next time?
You could just ask to spend time with her like shopping. Or if she's a teenager she might like to be left alone. But either way don't completely stop communication!
Did you never have a diary? it's the most personal thing a person can have. No one wants anyone to read it, especially their mom. You deserved it.
It's not a secret book; it's just a book where you can write your thoughts to vent or ponder on events. When I was mad, I would write in the diary, explain the situation, and then close the book. After that, I wasn't mad anymore. I tell my mom almost everything; just not the small intimate details. She knows everything I do, but not the details that would embarrass both of us. I write in my diary to remember happy times as well before I forget; like times with my boyfriend, when we met, and how he courted me. Without my diary, I would not remember the conversations we had.
Today, feeling very distant to my daughter recently, I decided to risk becoming more distant and possibly her hating me by digging through her personal things and reading her diary. FML
Yeah, I'm not sure how you thought this would help OP. Even if you did read something that helped you better understand your daughter it wouldn't help your relationship with her. You wouldn't be able to let on that you knew about what you read without risking her shutting her out of her life even more. I know if my parents went through my things, I would trust them even less.