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Well, no. Sometimes it's a little shocking to hear the truth, maybe he was just too focused on a different issue to see the role that he played. I don't think it's at all arrogant, but instead natural. That's why the family hired a mediator, they obviously don't agree on or can't resolve their issues alone.
We all know that the truth is that the rest of the family conspired to make him take the fall guy so that they don't look bad in front of a third party. It's so obvious (: don't worry op after the truth is revealed you can adress their problems :P Ps : kudos for actually attempting talking your problems out
I guess now you know you have some things to work on... that's not a bad thing. It's all about communication at this point. I wish you the best though OP.
Sorry to hear that, but it sounds like that's your fault. Something to work on.
I don't mean to be rude, but that's a bunch of bullshit. It's usually someone's fault, whether it's one person or everyone involved (the only exception is true miscommunication). While therapy shouldn't be about "its YOUR fault and you're a terrible person and blah blah blah", it's just downright stupid to encourage someone's ignorance by acting like they hold no blame- ESPECIALLY when the /entire/ family agrees that he isn't a good parent/husband. Just because OP is unaware of his wrongdoings doesn't mean he's faultless.
#32- But that is specifically your ex's situation. My dad was abusive towards me and my siblings and we all do place the blame on him for being a shitty parent. So just because you know someone who was in a situation of misplaced blame doesn't mean that people aren't honest about who IS to blame. Some people may be too scared to voice who they think is at fault so it seems misplaced, but they deep-down know the truth of their situation.
#79- I do still think that could be wrong, though. Sure, it'd be nice if everyone always shared equal blame and responsibility in every problem we face, but that simply doesn't happen as often as people would like to think. In most cases, a few people share only some blame and there's one or two people who just are much worse at causing the issues. This seems like the case here, even if his family don't have golden personalities themselves.