By Anonymous - 04/09/2012 17:26 - Netherlands - Utrecht
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Everybody needs to stop pointing the finger at those admitting they would not have stopped to help. There are many psychological cases that show that most people do not stop and help an individual in need. How many times have you walked past a homeless person without even thinking about it? Statistics show that most of you would not stop for the old, possibly drunk, woman. Stop being so damn self-righteous.
I don't know about everyone else here but I sure as hell will ALWAYS take the time stop and help someone if they ask my assistance. I have time, it's not like they're being rude to me or anything. Society is too damn impersonal these days. People need to get that 10 foot pole out of their assess and actually accept that they're in a very human world.
I'm not being self righteous; it's called being a good person. I have seen so many people wandering the streets asking people in cars for money or hanging around downtown. Even though I've been asked so many times, I at least respond to them or try to give them money or even if I have unopened food or water. I could not bear to ignore someone in need.
In all honesty. I probably wouldn't have stopped either. The first thing that would've crossed my mind would've been "Oh, she's just a crazy lady." Aside from that. I suffer from Social Anxiety. I just brush past people when they try talking to me. Not trying to be rude. I just tend to panic.
I don't see why y'all are making this guy out to be a dick, honestly ignoring her was an acceptable course of action since he did not know her and all she said was 'sir', not 'help me'. She could well have been a mugger, and while it turned out not so in this case it was possible. When I went to MEPS a group of hobos attempted to mug me and 3 other military recruits, not fifty feet from the store we just left, nor even 500 feet from the hotel that recruits and personnel are know to stay at and have stayed at for over 5 years. So yes, muggers can be that bold, and that stupid.
Citizens.. How many times have you passed someone broken down on a highway and drive right past them? Because some are scared of getting mugged if they stop to help which is understandable but it still doesn't hide the fact that you could have helped that person. Or when walking into a gas station and a poor man asks you for a dollar, how many people say no? Because we aren't going to give him the dollar if we can tell he's gunna use it for a drug habit or alcohol. Every situation is different, bc op had no clue what the old lady was wanting. If someone was in the front of walmart, while I was walking in, and tried asking me something I would have probably done the same thing.
256- women are actually told many times not to stop on the side of the road if they're alone to help someone because many times, it's dangerous. I haven't heard of a story where an old lady mugged someone on the street. Sure it's possible, I guess, but there's the higher chance in that scenario that she needed some type of help. And even if you told the homeless person no, you're still acknowledged them, unlike OP.
Some people can barely afford their groceries let alone give out money. There are people that will pose as homeless people on the street to get free money, so you never know if you're helping the right people. Drunks can be rude and obnoxious and he probably wanted to avoid a confrontation. It's not the fact that he was cold and heartless, if he was he wouldnt feel guilty for not helping her, it's just that he misconceived her honest cry for help, and in my opinion, it is a mistake that anyone could make.
doc just out of cutiousity do u talk to every hobo, elderly, drunk or pale looking person you meet? say he was in like newyork city or something you don't know and most people would not have said anything to the old lady so only call him a douche bag if you are 100% sure you'd talk to the lady even if you're in a hurry
Yeah? And I live in Miami, another large city. Just because you live in a large town with a lot of crazy people doesn't mean you can ignore people. SHE CALLED OUT TO HIM. And he ignored her. The best thing to do would have asked her what she needed and if it was absurd and she was obviously drunk, them he can apologise and tell her no. I hope that she is alright. Lesson? Looking "drunk" can be a symptom of many illnesses. Loss of coordination and slurring are common symptoms of a stroke. Hopefully it wasn't that serious and she's alright :(
People. What OP did was completely normal. I bet half of you have rarely, if ever encountered the homeless. And think of I this way, those damn annoying people at the mall, working the kiosks or whatever, always calling to everyone specifically. No one gives a damn, rarely anyone even pays attention. Those people like the old lady do it to themselves, OP should not be hated because he ignored someone who has ever likely done anything for another.
Wow some people are dicks. Around here, even well known hobos get a "how goes?" or a shrug and a "sorry brother". If they need help, we're listening, if they need change, we've declined and don't have to break stride. But being a Drifter myself, I try to keep cigarettes and dollar coins on me to hand out, people appreciate the gesture and remember you kindly for it.
I mean, sure I've passed by homeless people; I walk by other people too without looking. The problem is that the lady called out to him. I don't hand out change to every one I see, but if a homeless person specifically asked me for money, I won't ignore them; that's just arrogant. If I can't spare change, then I apologise to them. I at least acknowledge them. And yes; statistically, people won't pay attention to a person in need, but that doesn't mean EVERYONE won't. Sometimes you just don't have the ones that would help around; that doesn't mean they don't exist. And it certainly doesn't mean that ignoring someone is completely fine. Psychology studies have also shown that people will torture someone they don't know because a figure in authority will tell them to; even to the point of "death" (the person being tortured was actually an actor that they couldn't see) Does that mean torturing someone is fine?
31, being in a hurry is a excuse to not care for human life? Bum or not they called you. She was polite enough to say "Sir" even if she was a homeless person OP is no better than anyone else on this planet he could of given her the common courtesy to acknowledge her and maybe see that she needed help.
It doesn't matter if he was in a hurry, even if she was going to ask for money or whatever, he could at least acknowledged her while he continued walking. Then he would have known she actually needed medical attention. As a medical professional I ALWAYS answer someone, it's just courtesy. It Doesn't mean I am going to stop and talk and have a full conversation, but I will at least acknowledge the person. OPs a dick for thinking he's too good for society, and ignoring her. Never judge a book by its cover. I'm sure after he saw the crowd and ambulance he continued walking without a care.
I don't see why you wouldn't have just asked what she needed, instead of ignoring her COMPLETELY... :/
Why did you ignore her?! Even as a courtesy you should at least see what's wrong and if she looks bad get help for her!