By Anonymous - 12/03/2016 11:13 - United Kingdom - London
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Congrats on your engagement OP! People who don't really get hints are hard to deal with, I know, especially near a big day, so you might want to get one of your friends to talk to her or something
Sometimes, though, you just have to be direct with people instead of hinting. Adults who throw temper tantrums are ridiculous. If OP doesn't want this person as a bridesmaid, OP shouldn't be manipulated or guilted into it, or into changing her wedding so this person doesn't feel bad. Sure, OP can have a friend deal with her, but it might just be better for OP to be firm and handle it herself. It might be uncomfortable, but it'll hopefully set a new precedent for their relationship.
That sucks and is awkward. However if you're going to call her an attention seeking weirdo, you might as well tell her straight up that you don't want to be friends instead of sugar coating things and 'leading her on,' per se.
9, you perhaps don't need to use the exact words "I don't want to be friends", but hinting doesn't always work. People like this either don't pick up on hints or take advantage of the fact that you're too nice to be blunt and say no. You're allowed to end romantic relationships that aren't working, why can't you end friendships that aren't working?
I agree that op needs to somehow break up with this person. How many fml's have we seen where someone talks about how they found out their "friends" all talk bad about them behind their back, or how they all hang out secretly while excluding the op. I think it's wrong for op to lead her on or to pretend to be her friend. I don't know how she can go about it in a nice way, but it doesn't seem right doing what she's doing either.
If you don't like her, stop acting like a pathetic immature child and tell her. Either you're far too old to act like this, or far too young to get married; you sound like you're in middle school.
It's not always that easy. My sister got married on Friday and there was a woman there who is like this; thinks my sisters life revolves around her and treats her actual friends like they're dirt. Unfortunately she's the wife of my brother-in-law's best friend, so to alienate her could have a disastrous ripple effect. Sometimes trying to keep people happy is the more mature option; not wanting to be unkind to the face of someone who believes they are your friend is not pathetic or immature, whether you like them or not.