By sauce - 24/09/2010 06:33 - United States
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You will be connected to her family/parents for the rest of your life and this situation is going to be important in determining how they treat you in the future. you don't want to let them walk all over you or cause a rift between you and her family. talk to your girl and find a way to make everyone happy. lying about who is staying where has worked well for many a couple in the past. as they say, ignorance is bliss.
If you are old enough to be engaged to someone, you are old enough live where you want with who you want. Though you should generally try to respect your in-laws, if you let them steamroll you over now, you and your husband will be miserable. Especially since you already paid for the freaking apartment! Grow some lady-balls and tell them where they can put their values.
#103--I'd say a LOT of people don't know that, though. My *fiance* always writes "fiance" when referring to me, and I'm just not bothered enough to correct him. This OP might be in the same boat. I also automatically assumed it was a guy. Who knows....who cares!?
Technically what we consider moral all stem from the bible. Wether those morals were passed to you from your mother, grandmother, or through any other past family members, they came from the bible. Which is why some countries don't see a problem with deflowering children
um if you do read the Bible you will read that it say "you are married to the person you lay with" well that what it would say now adage I can't remember word for word but that's basically what it says. so they are married by what the Bible says and yes they had whores too but you could screw them and not be married. I need to reread the Bible since that confuses me but it says.
wow ur stupid! why aren't you living there?!? kick him out, you move in, problem solved. quit being a doormat
Right. The moral dilemma should not be yours. If the fiance has a problem because of what her/his? parents believe, then they should move out. On the other hand, you could try to convince the in-laws that the dilemma is really about sex, so if you guys are not having sex, there shouldn't be a problem (wink, wink, nudge, nudge).
If you pay for it, you live there. If your fiance cares about his apparently legally retarded parents more than for you... woah wait, shit, you already have a lease together? You are fucked then. And YDI for not realizing what a mommy's boy your fiance is while there was still time.
My parents would say much the same thing, if you're mature enough to be engaged you should have the balls to tell them it's your life not theirs
So much this. My grandparents pretty much disowned me after I moved in with my fiance (then boyfriend, at the time) and said that it was immoral and that they were completely disappointed in me... all of this being said while he was sitting right next to me. It was a huge shitshow and to this day the relationship I had with them has never been the same.