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By Claire - / Tuesday 5 February 2019 16:00 /
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By  RichardPencil  |  27

You’re missing the most obvious career path for you:

You could be a successful plaintiff in sexual harassment lawsuits. It’s a lot more lucrative than food service or retail.

By  MA_medQ  |  7

No, he is not “allowed to ask”. Not only is it extremely unprofessional it is also sexual harassment to ask a new coworker something like that.

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By  RichardPencil  |  27

You’re missing the most obvious career path for you:

You could be a successful plaintiff in sexual harassment lawsuits. It’s a lot more lucrative than food service or retail.

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By  davidfong  |  14

This is a new person so I would give him a chance, it may be creepy but he’s allowed to ask. Just explain to him that this is something your not into and if he continues then report him to HR

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  MA_medQ  |  7

No, he is not “allowed to ask”. Not only is it extremely unprofessional it is also sexual harassment to ask a new coworker something like that.

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  RichardPencil  |  27

He’s not allowed to ask, but if he asks only once and ceases after she says no, he probably won’t be punished.

If he persists with unwanted sexual advances, he should be fired and sued.

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  davidfong  |  14

First off I’m not the coworker. And second this is just my opinion if I was in her place him asking is creepy but he asked an question and he got an answer.
Only if it continues will it be a problem.
People get asked thing all the time and they have the choice to Choose if that’s what he or she wants to do.

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  cazziuz1983  |  7

Not certain why your getting down voted, your correct, there is no law covering one off remarks, no matter how creepy they may or may not be.. And for everyone who keeps saying its sexual harassment ... Grow the fuck ip, and step out of your idiotic heads realize that while sexual harassment does happen on a daily basis, not every remark a guy/girl makes is sexual harassment.odds are if she found the guy attractive this fml wouldn't even be here

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  Gwengreen  |  5

He is allowed to ask- outside of work. If they have a friendly enough relationship. She is allowed to work without being hit on. That should not be a tricky distinction.

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  PenguinPal3017  |  18

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gotta realize men are the enemy nowadays. ask a woman anything and its harassment of some sort. Harassment is an issue and does exist. "Although the law doesn’t prohibit simple teasing, offhand comments, or isolated incidents that are not very serious, harassment is illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted)." from the EEOC. specifically ALTHOUGH THE LAW DOES NOT PROHIBIT teasing, offhand comments, or isolated instances that are not very serious. He didnt threaten her. He made an unwelcome advance that he doesnt know is unwelcome. Different strokes. She needs to let him know it is unwelcome and then if it ends there its over. maybe even get an apology. Too much of this instant jump to victim bullshit. Unfortunately its all up for interpretation from many other people if brought to management. Dont ruin dudes life over 1 dumb question.

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So many down votes. All I am saying is don't instantly ruin the guys life. It may be inappropriate at work. Everyone has a right not to be harassed. Just realize this doesn't have to blow up and be worse for everyone. I wholeheartedly believe in consequences and accountability but remember problems can be solved without always having to make them worse.

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how is it textbook? i just put up the full legal definition. and as I said it is up for interpretation. not by me or you but by the people she will tell and the lawyers and judges and jury if they get involved. itd be much easier to tell him hes an ass for making an inappropriate comment. hopefully hed apologize but as long as nothing of the kind happens again it could be handled better than just going to management after 4 seconds into a job with a major complaint about an employee. Yes he should no better. No he should not have asked in the manner he did and not while at work. He should know better. People always go 0-100 immediately. If he is a real man he will own up and apologize. Doesn't mean everyone has to immediately go straight to sexual harassment.

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  OCD_NME  |  17

Heey Davidfong, I know we just met but can I poop in your mouth while playing with myself and then finish on the poop that's in your mouth. Then have you rub it all over your body as I pour rancid mayonnaise on you?? It's ok to ask because I'm just going to ask the one time and it's my fantasy.

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I love how people try to justify sexual harassment. If some dude came up and asked your significant other, mom, sister, friend, etc. that you would just tell her to let it slide? It’s her place of work she shouldn’t have to worry about some freak making gross remarks like that. Then we have the clown above me saying men are the enemy. Get the hell out of here you moron. You’re the reason men get a bad rap justifying crap like this as acceptable.

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  medyas  |  9

Maybe the guy should stop ruining his OWN life by making sexual propositions at work. It isn't the OPs reaction that's the problem, it's that guy's action. Sheesh.

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Yeah no. Doesn’t matter if he’s new, that’s not something you ask someone you just met, especially in a workplace setting. The only exception to this rule is on a BDSM dating app.

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  RichardPencil  |  27

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I should really package my lessons on “Purposeful Ignorance” into a series of expensive lectures. I’d become rich while making the world a better place.

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