By Anonymous - 05/12/2015 05:44 - United States
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Reckon she will never set "foot" at your place anymore. Seriously though, some things are better left unspoken. And if you must speak of such things...Start slowly, ease her into it. It's always good to try and soften the blow. Better luck next time OP.
I don't think it's healthy to keep fetishes or kinks "unspoken," honestly. I am always very open with a potential partner early on about kinks/fetishes to avoid such issues later since many of them are deal breakers not to have in a relationship for me. Unless this is a recent realization (it happens), OP really should have brought it up much earlier and eased her into it slowly. They definitely don't deserve the treatment they're getting though. It's devastating to open up about something you're shy or nervous about to someone you trust then have them completely shut you down like that. You're completely normal, OP. Her reaction was unwarranted and cruel. I hope you can find someone who appreciates your fetish or at least is okay with it.
some fetishes have a bad rap this is one of them. I bet if he had started with foot massages and worked his way up slowly she wouldn't have fluttered an eye. I'd never say no to a foot massage! Some things have to be said especially if it affects the way you live your life, but it doesn't mean body slam them with it. Make em like and then slap a name on it, they'll be more accepting.
From someone who hates feet with a passion and will chop it off if it comes near me, I wouldn't leave someone because of that fetish. Sorry she wasn't mature enough to accept you, hopefully you will find someone that does.
#89 Well, I guess if you can shame us "foot freaks", it's okay for us to shame whatever you're into. Seriously, shame on you. Maybe you are not into it, and that's fine, but shaming somebody because they have a foot fetish, or any fetish really, is like shaming somebody who is homosexual. People like me are born this way, and we can't change who we are, or how we feel.
Foot fetishes are very common, as the area of the brain that involves the feet and the area that involves the genitals are located right next to each other and the "wiring" is very easily crossed. Medical sex experts think it make be as simple as mis-singalling. Regardless, everyone has their kinks. While I think you should have been honest with her earlier, I'm going to say FYL for having a partner who isn't open to discussing yours. Next time, discuss your fetish with your partner as soon as things begin to move into the bedroom. Eventually you will find someone who is as open to accommodating your sexual needs as you are theirs, or, possibly, even someone with the same kink.
I'm not sure why people are hitting the YDI button, OP. I think it's normal, and even healthy, to tell your significant other of your likes and kinks. If she wasn't into the idea, she could've simply said "no." The rest was just an overreaction on her part. Sorry for the breakup. Wish you luck.
Well, of course he should have told her earlier. But sometimes, when you first start dating a person, telling them a detail so intimate and personal about yourself can be a mortifying experience. Some people would prefer to wait until there's more trust involved; they wait until they are sure that even if the person might not love who they are, s/he will still accept them. Thus, this is a little heartbreaking. OP's ex could have said "there's nothing wrong with your kink, but I'm just not into it. I really hope you can find someone who can satisfy your needs," instead avoiding him altogether, and so childishly at that too.
YDI not because of your fetish but because you weren't honest with her up front OP! If you are open from the start of your relationships I'm sure you will find someone who will let you at this glorious tootsies of theres!
I don't understand all the YDIs. They were dating for over a year. Honestly, if your partner is so close-minded as to immediately dump you over a fetish as common as feet, you deserve better OP.