I think it's pretty clear there won't be a next time with her from this FML.

if she really loved him, she could've worked through her discomfort or just told him that it was something that she was not into. so no, this was not sonething that should've been left unsaid.

You act like he's telling her that he is cheating on her. This isn't emotionally damaging her at all. This is him being honest, like he should be in a relationship, and her being immature. As a matter of fact, OP is probably better off without her.

I don't think it's healthy to keep fetishes or kinks "unspoken," honestly. I am always very open with a potential partner early on about kinks/fetishes to avoid such issues later since many of them are deal breakers not to have in a relationship for me. Unless this is a recent realization (it happens), OP really should have brought it up much earlier and eased her into it slowly. They definitely don't deserve the treatment they're getting though. It's devastating to open up about something you're shy or nervous about to someone you trust then have them completely shut you down like that. You're completely normal, OP. Her reaction was unwarranted and cruel. I hope you can find someone who appreciates your fetish or at least is okay with it.

some fetishes have a bad rap this is one of them. I bet if he had started with foot massages and worked his way up slowly she wouldn't have fluttered an eye. I'd never say no to a foot massage! Some things have to be said especially if it affects the way you live your life, but it doesn't mean body slam them with it. Make em like and then slap a name on it, they'll be more accepting.

I dated a guy with a foot fetish and it was actually pretty great. He gave the absolute, most heavenly, wonderful foot rubs. I didn't mind him always wanting to touch my feet either, it just wasn't that big of a deal.

I don't get why this has thumbs down, they're right! You gotta ease into things, even if they are/aren't mature.

Loving the irony on your comment, 3.

Thanks to Dexter

Might want to check the meaning of irony, 71.

You clever bastard you...I like you haha.

Nah, I agree with you on a hatred of feet, but if my girl came out with a foot fetish, I'd probably just go celibate. I could not incorporate feet into sex. They're dirty and gross and they stink. Not afraid to kink-shame foot freaks.

Ugh. I hate feet too.

I would be somewhat supportive, only because my fetishes are stranger than that. So, who am I to judge? I got no right. Also, I don't know what it is. It's easier to support or tolerate things if you don't know or think about it.

#89 Well, I guess if you can shame us "foot freaks", it's okay for us to shame whatever you're into. Seriously, shame on you. Maybe you are not into it, and that's fine, but shaming somebody because they have a foot fetish, or any fetish really, is like shaming somebody who is homosexual. People like me are born this way, and we can't change who we are, or how we feel.

89, you're acting like they're going to literally shove their foot up your ass and get off from it. Don't over think fetishes, not everyone is extreme with them.

may* I shouldn't type while watching Pirates of the Caribbean.

I might just be tired, but I've re-read this a few times and can't see where the "may" should be :(

Instead of "make" :)

It's YDI because he waited far too long. (Assuming they're not waiting until marriage, then it's not a YDI, but we're assuming they were active.)

Well, of course he should have told her earlier. But sometimes, when you first start dating a person, telling them a detail so intimate and personal about yourself can be a mortifying experience. Some people would prefer to wait until there's more trust involved; they wait until they are sure that even if the person might not love who they are, s/he will still accept them. Thus, this is a little heartbreaking. OP's ex could have said "there's nothing wrong with your kink, but I'm just not into it. I really hope you can find someone who can satisfy your needs," instead avoiding him altogether, and so childishly at that too.

I said YDI because really, he deserves better than that close-minded bitch. OP, FYL for her dumping you, but also YDI because you don't deserve to be with someone who doesn't accept you for you who are.

And one day someone will leave you for a "gross" thing you considered normal

Shallow ****...

Everybody has some kind of fetish, I don't like feet, but that's a pretty normal one.

Yay, you're an immature, douchesnorkel. Let's not be so mean, I mean it'll be tough for them to find someone.

You don't start relationships by discussing your bedroom kinks...

Haha #25 that would sound more like an addiction meeting than a first date. "Hi my name is OP and I have a foot fetish."

You may not start off a relationship discussing bedroom kinks but it should of come up sometime in the last year. I mostly agree with #10 ydi for waiting a year to tell her

True it's not actually that uncommon or strange

Someone's possible thought process when clicking YDI: "He should have told her much earlier in the relationship. YDI."

Man yes! A whole happy year has ended just for nothing. I am so sorry OP, I hope you'll find a better partner for yourself. FYL.