By Oops - 24/10/2009 13:14 - United Kingdom
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Everyone saying YDI for not using condoms is a moron. Obviously you use condoms when having sex with someone if you're not sure it would be safe, but with your fiance? if she's on the pill no point, pill is way more effective than condoms as a contraceptive, and you had better know by then whether or not your partner has diseased. So what I'm trying to say is stupid people who don't understand sex STFU
I fail to see the problem here since you can just tell her that your buying them for your friend and he could tell her that he's to shy and asked you to buy them. Don't really think that this is FML worthy since you can just explain it.
Still awkward at that moment. "Um honey, it's not what it looks like." "I'm buying them for a friend, honest." "He's just too shy to buy them." She'd probably walk out at that moment not giving him a chance to explain. Besides, no where in the FML does it say the friend is waiting outside the store. The friend could have called and asked.
ok #2, lets take a similar situation that most people are familiar with as they see it on tv or whatever all the time Parents: "Can you tell what the hell were you doing with these drugs." Child: "oh it's not mine, I'm just holding it for a friend" (complete bull shit and everyone knows it) so ya OP should tell his fiance it's for a friend, she'll definately understand (sarcasm)
And then you explained everything and it was cool, right? Sigh. Presumptuous people are so annoying.
No kidding. "Oh, hi honey. Yeah, my mate asked me to buy these for him – he's too shy to even get them himself.". You then proceed to walk out and hand them to him, confirming your story (or let her tag along when you go give them to him, if he's further away). Anyone who can't accept that explanation is likely very insecure or paranoid, and you should be very cautious of being in such a committed relationship with them.
1. She could be on the pill or some other way to prevent pregnancies 2. They could be virgins, but it seems unlikely in this case since OP states they don't use it...which implies they've had sex. And they may want a kid *shrugs* they're getting married after all :P OP: I hope your fiancee is trusting...you can't have a relationship without trust right? :D
She might be on the pill, but they should still use condoms. The pill isn't 100% effective either, even if you take it at the same time every day. And even if they want kids, they should get married first. If you're not willing to commit to a marriage (or can't afford one), you shouldn't be having kids. They're a lot bigger (and more expensive) commitment.
Who are you to judge if they have a kid before marriage? I mean, I agree with your comment. But a lot of people who are engaged (especially with the marriage date in sight) start having sex without condoms. I would assume by that point both couples have been tested for STDs and have the commitment to get married and raise their children. I mean, they are engaged after all. P.S. Hi Rye. :)
To add to that, it's entirely possible that she may already be pregnant, and that is why they are getting married and they don't use birth control. Regardless. They're in a long term committed relationship and have obviously decided to accept whatever chance of pregnancy there is with whatever birth control they do, or do not use.
Okay lets learn something here today, and that is......condoms arnt 100% effective either! Secondly marriage doesnt demonstrate your commitment if the divorce rate in many countries is at nearly 50%. Thirdly how does a big ceremony and a piece of paper demonstrate your commitment? Seriously Rye you cant just assume everyone else holds your ideals about marriage and apply them to other people. Lots of people now have children without marriage and are just as happy and successful as those that dont. But this is an FML as the OP does has a really shit situation to deal with, with a person he obviously cares deeply about due to his engagement.
That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. While you should always use condoms when you're in a new relationship, it is NOT NECESSARY once you've been in the relationship for a long time (minimum 6 months) and have both tested clean for STDs, and she's on the pill. Obviously, you must be monogamous and trust each other... the guy has to also trust that she knows how to take the pill on time every day, but saying the OP should be using condoms when he's ENGAGED is ridiculous. For all you know, the OP could have a vasectomy, or his fiance could be sterile for whatever reason, or she might be on Implanon, which is a birth control which has a higher effectiveness rate than even vasectomies. OP, I hope your fiance isn't a crazy bitch and didn't flip out on you. If I had been in her position, I would've been suspicious too, but calm enough to allow you to explain. If she flipped out, rethink marrying her.
Actually, condoms are between 95% and 97% affective, the pill is 99.9% affective. If you are only using condoms you are more likely to get pregnant than if you just use the pill. Lots of people use other forms of contraception, particularly if you are in a long term relationship and plan on having a lot of sex, simply because condoms are highly inconvient and offer a much lower level of protection than hormonal treatments or implants such as the coil. If you both know you are STD free, then condoms in a long term relationship are simply not practical.