By Anonymous - 15/08/2021 20:01 - United States - Ann Arbor
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Why do I have nothing but downvotes for making fun of this guy, when the majority of responses are that he deserved it?
Sounds like her personal problem. In marriage plans like quitting a job are announced ahead of time. imo signing the lease should have been held off too until you told her how you felt. And you should have told her when the application was approved. This lands on both of you, but mostly her. Cutting off income isn't something you don't communicate ahead of time. Staying with her as a stay at home mom gives a basis to give her primary custody and you being the one paying into child support. Talk to a lawyer asap.
You'll just need to get a few more jobs to pay for all that. Send your kids to public school. If you're going to make your kids live in a broken home, you might as well go all the way in sabotaging them by sending them to public school! (JK, public school is usually an excellent choice. If you want to fuck up kids, homeschool them 😂)
You say you can't afford an apartment, mortgage and tuition. Sounds like you're in a miserable situation. Get the apartment and let everyone else figure the other out. Because 1. if she quit and you carry her, your alimony will just be more if you wait. 2. Tuition for who? A grown child over 18. Reality is a hard lesson. 3. The mortgaged house? It's not like you're going to get to keep it after divorce. 4. Just get the apartment and have some peace for a little while.
all these people saying she quit her job without telling him? What about him leaving her, renting his own apartment before talking to her? He will still have to support the kid, and probably her either way....
If he decided to leave then there is nothing to talk about. It would be awkward if he stayed there after *leaving*, so having an apartement beforehand is a good idea. Seems to me he planned to keep supporting the kids but she made him a sole provider without any discussion.