By Anonymous - 3/11/2020 22:02 - United States - Anchorage

Get the message, dude

Today, after telling my boyfriend of 8 years on Monday that I'm unhappy and don’t want to be in a relationship anymore, he said to me just now, "So, I’m thinking of proposing to you in December." FML
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By  JasonThorn  |  18

Too little, too late. Eight years, and his response to you pulling the ripcord is, "I was *thinking* about proposing?" This response is so transparently self-centered you could use it as window glass.

Dump the sucker and don't accept any half-hearted "kinda" responses like that.

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By  kendonmcb  |  18

So you could be honest and just break up with him, instead of keeping him around, waiting for a better option, to have a fallback if there is no better option (spoiler alert: if he dealt with you for eight years there probably is no better option).

By  JasonThorn  |  18

Too little, too late. Eight years, and his response to you pulling the ripcord is, "I was *thinking* about proposing?" This response is so transparently self-centered you could use it as window glass.

Dump the sucker and don't accept any half-hearted "kinda" responses like that.

By  Brightside86  |  21

Sounds like he's just trying to work with you. Whats the real problem with your unhappiness? Also I wouldn't expect a significant other to be responsible for my happiness. That's a scary amount of control go give someone.

By  Michele Sidor  |  4

Don’t listen to it! That is classic manipulation! If he had wanted to propose, he would have done it sooner. He is only saying this because he doesn’t want to be alone.

By  Chazzster  |  20

OP, if you are unhappy in your relationship and you have at least attempted to discuss the issues that make you unhappy and got no resolution then just end it. There are times when it’s clear that a relationship does not work.

But one caution - Were you satisfied with the relationship before the COVID-19 pandemic hit? If the honest answer is yes then remember that we are all under stress due to the pandemic. The pandemic will pass, but it may be another year before that happens.