By Anonymous

Explain this

  Today, I came home to find my mom in my apartment packing my things and crying. When she saw me she threw her arms around me and explained through her tears that she caught my girlfriend cheating on me and that she was sorry. My girlfriend and I are in an open relationship. I had to explain that. FML
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a ddlg relationship is about that. but also about him taking care of you. if he doesn't get that then he doesn't need to be called Daddy. maybe look up ddlg and explain how it works

  menja  |  29

Seriously, don't call hin Daddy if you won't accept your part in the dd/lg relationship. There's no point calling him that, giving him hope in giving you a guiding hand if you're unwilling to listen.

  GhostFox  |  33


First up, ddlg is a subtype of BDSM, usually more related to the Master/servant and discipline aspects.

Two, the guideline about any kind of BDSM is safe, sane, and consensual. Even if partners decide to not use the "safe" part, consent much be given with full knowledge of what the session will contain. If either partner develops a different desire to incorporate into the scene, it's their responsibility to inform the other party.

Three, not telling a partner about a change in plans and not giving them the chance to discuss it, and simply springing it on them invalidates previous consent.

Four, taking BDSM practices out of the bedroom and incorporating it into everyday life isn't for everyone, and should never be done without the non-dominant person's consent, because it is a breach of the play session.

Five, NoEmotions obviously doesn't enjoy the non-bedroom age play, and it in fact makes them feel angry and like they are being condescended to, which means any good dominant would STOP. A dominant s desires to assert them self should never come to fruition if it means causing harm of any kind to their partner(s), whether through bad consent protocol or not stopping a session when the bottom is asking for worse injuries than is safe.

  PenguinPal3017  |  19

Only if he's not also taking advantage of the situation. This guy I work with is poly. He is dating multiple women, and they are all dating multiple men. It's how some people like it.

By  peithecelt  |  28

"mom we're (some flavor of open/poly)" is a hard conversation, but better than dealing with that kind of shock. (I know of which I speak, I am in a poly relationship, I've had it with 3 sets of parents now).

By  thehaystackerine  |  20

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  OverFlash  |  15

Personally, I find the "you can only love one person" view to be bullshit. You can love multiple people like a best friend. You can love both of your parents the same, and even other people (e.g., aunts and uncles, grandparents, parents of friends/partners) like parents as well. You're allowed to love multiple siblings like siblings, and even some friendships can get to that level. You can also love multiple children (biological and adopted). All of these forms of love, nobody bats an eye at. So why does everyone lose their minds at the thought of someone loving multiple people as a partner? You're bound to get some people who are like that in a species as socially dependent on others as us.

  thehaystackerine  |  20

jeez, doesn't anyone have morals anymore?