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By Patsuan - 18/08/2016 20:49 - United States - Highland

Today, I rode the bus with my brother. He left his lunch box there and now my parents are blaming me for not picking it up. He's 12, and he still can't even put on his own shoes, sleep by himself, or talk maturely. FML.
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Sounds like he might be autistic, or something like that. You should probably talk to your parents about having your brother checked out. :)

If you already knew that he was not typical for a 12 year old, wouldn't you pay more attention to the things he does or doesn't do? I have an older sister who just turned 28 and I still have to watch out for her when we go places. She once stepped off to cross on a red light and I grabbed her and pulled her back. It's a forever job looking out for a special sibling. Focus on the positives.

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Sounds like he might be autistic, or something like that. You should probably talk to your parents about having your brother checked out. :)

If you already knew that he was not typical for a 12 year old, wouldn't you pay more attention to the things he does or doesn't do? I have an older sister who just turned 28 and I still have to watch out for her when we go places. She once stepped off to cross on a red light and I grabbed her and pulled her back. It's a forever job looking out for a special sibling. Focus on the positives.

Yeah, it sounds like your sibling might be neuroatypical and your parents haven't told you because, to be frank, they probably thought you would bully him. Given you know something isn't normal about the way he functions and you still have a "not my problem" view on it... Yeah, you deserve the chewing out. If you don't want to be responsible for him, flat out say it to them. Don't let them think your okay with it and then let him get himself in trouble because it "isn't your problem."

Ok gotta say it, first off you're* and there is a good chance nothing's wrong with the kid. And don't be so quick to judge based on a few sentences. I have two cousins who don't talk or act normal because my grandparents and their aunts and uncles spoiled then rotten. They talk that way to get attention they think adults find it cute and it gets them what they want. And it shouldn't be the sibling's responsibility to grab their "baby brother's" stuff. And what kind of parents don't tell their other kids if they're mentally disabled? That'd be like my parents not telling my sister I'm diabetic and then yelling at her if I forgot to dose or left my medical bag somewhere. NOT HER PROBLEM. This was most likely an ongoing problem and the OP needed to vent. But hey don't be so quick to judge.

Because it's actually not horribly uncommon for parent to not mention if a kid is disabled in certain parts of the country? Because, hey, what do you know, a lot of people like to assume that there's nothing wrong with people just because they don't "look" like they are? And the point remains- if OP doesn't want to be responsible for their YOUNGER sibling on outings, SAY IT. Because, gee, the older sibling is generally assumed to be responsible for the younger sibling, especially when the age gap or maturity difference is significant, and if OP doesn't want or feel able to be responsible for their YOUNGER sibling, they should say it instead of letting their parent assume they will do such a task, and then getting mad when their parents get annoyed for not doing the task they acted as if they would do?

IcyDarcy 10

Why do you all people think the kid is mentally challenged ? It sounds like he's that way because of his (and OP's) parents. I knew a kid like that. At 8, he still needed "mommy" to wipe his ass when he went to take a dump. When he was a teen, "mommy" was the one to pick out his clothes, pack his school bag to make sure he had all he needed for the day's lessons, do his homework because it was "too complicated" for him. When he went to uni, "mommy" asked me to go there and get his finals schedule because once again, it was "too complicated" for him... And guess what ?! The kid is perfectly fine in his head, but he got used to being treated like he was unable to do anything on his own. He's in his early 20s now, still expecting "mommy" to bring him groceries and tell him what he should say or do... So, I know it's hard to judge from a few words, but I doubt OP would be posting on here if there was a real reason as to why her brother is that way.

Is he special or do they just baby him and he cant grow up

My 10 year old brother in-law is like this. He's lacking on so much sphere of life that I don't know how he'll be able to live outside his parents house or just live in society. It's a shame for them to not have gotten the best education/growing up "normally". I'm so sorry for you OP