Today, I had to make a family tree for one of my classes. When I was going through it, I realized that both my parents have the same last name. So, I asked them about it and they told me that they are second cousins. FML
I agree, your life sucks (186459) - you totally deserved it (10742)
On 03/04/2009 at 3:52am - misc - by fam_surprise (man) - United States (California)
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you deserve it because you are dumb enough to put this online to millions of people to read about your disgusting parents! lmao! you idiot!
Haaa that's really kind of depressing. So pretty much it'd be like you marrying your cousin's kid. Sick.
I can't decide what's worse. The fact that they ARE second cousins, or the fact that you didn't know this before now.
People say that second cousins don't really matter in terms of incest or not. (If that makes you feel any better...) That really sucks that you found out this way, esp. since it'll probably make you uncomfortable. This is one of those situations that just sucks - absolutely nothing you can do except accept it :(
#6 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:05pm by anaphaseii
haha, if you want a biology lesson, it only matters for brothers and sisters really. because offspring really can have defects if it's so closely related due to lack of genetic variation. I know, a little sick in terms of our culture, but a few other cultures marry their first cousins to keep everything in the same tribe. Just sayin...
#290 - On 01/26/2010 at 8:00pm by tdawgheath
I wouldn't worry too much. It's actually not as bad as you think. If it was generation, and generations of this kind of DNA breeding...then you'd possibly be retarded. But, since it was only one, you're good. :P
Does anyone ever wonder who votes for 'you deserved it' in these types of FMLs? I just don't see how anyone DESERVES finding out something they have no control over...
Anyhow, just looked it up and yup, second cousins are different enough genetically that it's not a problem. At least there's that =)
#9 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:10pm by anaphaseii
#5, #2 was right, your parents cousins child would be you third cousin. so it is if you married your cousins child or you married your parents cousin
#11 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:12pm by punkninjax
I think the "You deserved that one" in this case was that the person didn't know about this until now. (Not knowing mother's maiden name)
It goes with the same amount of words to connect the relatives. PARENT'S COUSIN, = 2nd cousin. Two words. PARENT'S COUSIN'S KID, = 3rd cousin. Three words. That's how I was told to remember it when I was learning.
I hope that assignment isn't tied to a presentation or it'll be a while before you live it down.
#17 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:21pm by 1000101
As odd as it may seem right now, it's not the end of the world.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_coupled_cousins
that's so stupid. having parents that are 2nd cousins is not bad. My parents are actually 2nd cousins and i have an IQ of 140. yea, that's right. FU and F everyone who thinks having 2nd cousins as parent's is bad.
#251 - On 06/28/2009 at 4:06pm by sophie1070
A second cousin could also be the offspring of your first cousin. I.E. If your mom was the daughter of your dad's cousin....that would make them second cousins.
I would just be grateful that you don't have any weird deformities or mental problems. Other than that, at least you found out sooner than later I guess.
#21 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:25pm by whattheeff
thinkpink: then I think you were taught wrong, lol. your parent's cousins kid is your 2nd cousin. your parent's cousin is your 1st cousin once removed.
basically your cousins (whether it be 1st, 2nd, 3rd, whatever) are always the same generation you are. if they're a different generation, they're "removed" cousins (once removed, twice removed...)
Here's a diagram if you're getting confused, lol: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/8/87/CousinTree.svg
How do you not know your own parents' last names? You deserved this, idiot.
#29 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:37pm by philipine22
equinoxe has got it right. I dont know how so many people fail to understand this simple concept. Thinkpink... that just about has got to be the stupidest thing i have ever heard.
#30 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:37pm by Rowdydog87
So what? That's a pretty distant relationship. It's not like marrying your sister or anything. Genetically it's not even a danger.
#32 is right. While in America this is considered socially irresponsible, there is nothing wrong with it. It is even genetically ok to breed with your first cousin. In fact, there is a rich family of bankers in Europe, the Rothschilds, that have interbreed with first cousins for years with no adverse effects.
#34 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:44pm by Gtrshrdr860
It's legal for first cousins to marry in quite a lot of states. The risk of birth defects in these situations is no higher than that of a middle-aged woman getting pregnant.
So, basically, being attracted to your hot first cousin is totally okay! :D
#36 - On 03/04/2009 at 2:48pm by burdenofaday
#22, Thank god you explained it for everyone- I actually just created an account so that I comment on this.
#36, Yeah I read an article where scientists said just that!
wow. how could you not know that your parents had the same last name before now? apparently some of the inbreeding got to you because that's just plain stupid.
#40 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:00pm by DanceRox9008
Well the assignment is for a family tree, honestly how old can the kid be, 12? You don't really think about who's married who and how your parents met, and your parent's maiden name when you're 12, not usually.
#291 - On 01/26/2010 at 8:05pm by tdawgheath
Well that should make the family tree assignment go a lot faster with only one branch right?
Really though, that sucks.
#41 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:00pm by thatminxmyrna
#40, most women change their name to their husband's name after getting married. Someone's mother's maiden name doesn't usually come up in conversation a lot. Also, who knows how old this person is- and they could have a really common name anyway.
I do think that showing one's class how their family tree is just one tree might lead them to get mocked. I hope you persevere!
Look at the upside––maybe there's a scholarship for that. They have scholarships for almost any... genetic disposition.
#43 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:10pm by ExclamationKate
Second cousin marriage does not matter in terms of biodiversity. It's a distant enough relationship that it doesn't matter from an evolutionary standpoint. But if I were you I'd think it was icky too.
If it makes you feel any better, my great-grandparents were first cousins, and for this reason, my grandmother had no left pectoral muscle. True story.
#44 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:10pm by wafflemonger
We're all cousins (at some point); I believe one's farthest related cousin would be 30-something... so it's not that unusual for more closely related people to marry. In fact, a study in Iceland found that the children of 3rd cousins had the best/healthiest genetic structure.
#42 even if it doesn't come up in conversation a lot this person should still know it. I knew my mom's maiden name when i was like 8 and this person I would assume is at least 16 or so??
#46 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:14pm by Megan
couldn't you figure out that they were second cousins on your own? you WERE making a family tree...
#47 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:16pm by dianabadwoman
This same sorta thing happened to a friend of my mom. The funny thing is, their families knew they were distant cousins the whole time and just didn't feel it was important to let them know.
And as for the mother's maiden name thing, does the OP not interact w/ any of their mom's family? Or I guess maybe it just never clicked before.
#48 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:22pm by save_me_08
Incest though wrong in modern society isn't going to lead to mutant, retarded kids. I watched a document recently about the Blue people of Kentucky who inbred and passed a recessive trait down through the generations. Also as #34 said, some of the wealthy and elite interbreed (way of keeping power within the bloodline). It's more of a taboo than anything.
If it makes you feel better, my grandma's maiden name and her married name were the same. My grandparents were of no known relation though.
#51 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:35pm by mariposa93
Ha, this happened in my family...the end result...a child that was a cousin to herself and to her sisters...also when she was born she was immediately taken to surgery because her stomach was on the outside of her little belly.
Second cousins isn't "so" bad. Full siblings share both parents, and you inherit 50% of your genes from one parent and 50% from the other - so you and your sibling have the potential to share up to 50% of the same genes. Full first cousins share the same grandparents, meaning they have the potential to share up to 25% of the same genes. Full second cousins share the same great-grandparents, meaning they have the potential to share up to 12.5% of the same genes. Chances are good that there should be very little problems with inbreeding. Even if you didn't know that about your parents, almost everyone is inbred somewhere along the lines, it's really no big thing at all.
#55 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:39pm by everythingtold
omgggg that is horrible. i can't believe they never told you until now tho?
#58 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:50pm by sexygirl123
oh god give it up u guys! wats the big deal anyways?!?!
in case u did not know, many cultures of the world marry their cousins! there is nothing wrong with that!
just because YOU think its sick doesnt make it wrong! like i think being gay or lesbian is sick! does it make it wrong?! and who are we to judge other pple anyways?!?!
#59 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:52pm by ellykhoshkele
okay you aren't related to your second cousin!!! holyyy crappp its your cousin's cousin. or am i just completely wrong?then i have no idea what a second cousin is
#60 - On 03/04/2009 at 3:59pm by blinkgirlx3
you poor poor thing..... :( you'd be surprised how often it happens...
#64 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:05pm by nghtynurse
i agree with #63. how old r u, have u seriously never noticed it. and would the last names of your moms parents be the same as urs. didnt that seem odd to u?
#66 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:08pm by sexygirl123
Second cousins, whatever. I would kind of be pumped to highlight that fact on MY family tree just for the lulz factor. Although it is pretty weird that you didnt already know!
#67 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:08pm by PTERONOPHOBIA
The parents might not have even known they were second cousins until after they got involved. I don't know the vast majority of my second cousins, and it's not that uncommon (the not knowing your second cousins part, not the marrying them part).
#69 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:15pm by adelaide_evening
"Good morning Appalachia, I've got a mighty cute sister and an extra set of toes."
Hey, at least in making the family tree you can figure out who YOU are related to and marry someone you aren't related to.
Gotta love cultural taboos. Some cultures find it obscene that we pick our own spouses. Or that women shouldn't have their heads uncovered. You might think those taboos are "ridiculous," but it's really no different than our own. In other cultures, it's perfectly normal to marry your first cousin, let alone your second. Besides, second cousins marrying IS legal in the United States.
This is in no way "horrible" or "disgusting." What truly amazes me is that the OP didn't know before now.
#72 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:16pm by infantrygirl
@18 that's a list of couples that are cousins... not a list of successful people whose parents were cousins.
#18, that wouldn't make me feel any better to be honest. the most recent couple on that list was from the 1950s lol
#80 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:38pm by uminuscooll
I feel like this cant be real, how did you not know this. U never asked your mom maiden name. You've never met anyone in your family that was related to both you parents. weirdly suspicious.
#81 - On 03/04/2009 at 4:41pm by Ashmonkey0711
Heya, first off, first-generation incest even with direct siblings, while slightly disturbing, won't produce any mutations. Even second-gen is unlikely. Second, second-cousins are so genetically different from each other that you, your children, your 5x-great-grandchildren, whatever, could marry their second cousins forever and probably come up with any genetic problems. Not saying it's not slightly creepy, but it won't hurt anything.
I don't understand why ppl r talking to u about marriage and what not! wasn't the problem that you were making a family tree??? Don't let all these comments get you down it's not as bas as ppl here make it seem like.
Illegal is aunt and nephew or brother and sister, but A and B (A's dad and B's dad are brothers) is legal. Only direct sibblings. On that case, we have the problem of "if i marry my uncle, then his dad, who is my grandfather, becomes my father in law, my mom becomes the mom in maw of her own brother..". The couple and their children can't identify themselves in the family anymore.
There is higher risk of problems with a possible baby is the parents are cousins, but it's from 1-2% to a 3% risk.
Yes it kickes in the ass the "go get women outside" tribal idea. That's why for most of you think it's creepy or immoral... I do agree with the idea of diversify our genetic tree, but if two cousins happen to find themselves falling in love, if they didn't really know each other or nor grew together.. Cool for them, let them be happy
#84 - On 03/04/2009 at 5:10pm by 4ube
just because her parents have the same last name doesn't necessarily mean they had to be related. my father moved to my mothers town when they got married and all through my town there are people with my last name, but i'm not related to any of them at all.. unfortunately it didn't work out like this for this person. and like it's been said many times on here, genetically it doesn't seem to be a problem, it just seems bad when you think about it..
#85 - On 03/04/2009 at 5:16pm by procrastinator11
in some countries being married to first cousins isnt considered strange :S my parents are cousins..
#86 - On 03/04/2009 at 5:17pm by hypa_kitty
And how old are you that you are JUST learning your mothers maiden name?
#87 - On 03/04/2009 at 5:24pm by MonkeySpeaks
My parents are third cousins, and it's actually pretty cool. Both of my grandmothers knew each other from way back when, so it's pretty cool to have both sides of my family knowing each other, asking about each other, etc. And before anybody asks, I have an above-average IQ, I was third in my high school class, and I have a master's degree and a good job. Parents being cousins is NOT that big of a deal.
#57 I resent that.
None of my family members are related...
#90 - On 03/04/2009 at 5:50pm by KAMFisBAMF
holy fuckkk , that sucks !
and you just found this out.... :S
#92 - On 03/04/2009 at 6:07pm by dammn
Not that bad. Second cousin marriages are legal for a reason - they don't share that many genes.
#93 - On 03/04/2009 at 6:16pm by Floatout2sea
let me guess, you're american right?
Whats the matter with six fingered web toed idiots? way to go billy-bob
LOL @ thirteen.
fdr and eleanor roosevelt were second cousins, and look how life went for them! ignoring the polio and the mistress parts...
OHHHH!!! That sucks! I am so sorry. That is seriosuly fucked up. Dude... >.< Oh no...
I'm just imagining if I would find that out about my parents, I would fucking go apeshit.
this is one of those things you have to deal with. I caught my mother with my cousin having sex when I was 12 and they ended up getting married when I was 14. They had to go to California to do it since its Illegal in Oregon. Since it was my mother though, I just had to move on and get over it. Although even though im 21 I still hate my step dad.
#101 - On 03/04/2009 at 7:28pm by thatreallysucks
#101 wow that does really suck! Haha
Well second cousins isnt the end of the world I guess, but how on earth do you never notice that your parents have the same last name? I dont remember ever not knowing my mom's maiden name. Its a little hard to believe that you wouldnt notice something like at holidays or just plain talking with your parents about their childhood.
#101 im sry and #97 wats that american comment where the hell are u from ur dad is probably grandpa so f-u and go AMERICA and wat 6 finger wat at least we have digits
That's Kinda Weird.
But I Have A Lot Of People In My Family Who Have Married Eachother And Are Cousins.
Yes It's Out There, But Most Of My Family Is From The South.
no, 2nd cousin: your parent's 1st cousin's child
a parent's 1st cousin or a 1st cousins child would be your 1st cousin once removed
"Second Cousin: 1. A child of a first cousin of one's parent." (from http://www.thefreedictionary.com/second+cousin)
Why is everyone making references to the South??? Some make it sound as if everyone is a hillbilly and the only kind of marriage is intermarriage!
You just learned your mother's maiden name? Even in West Virginia, you should know your mother's maiden name.
#112 - On 03/04/2009 at 9:18pm by BS_Detector
Wow... that is kind of embarrassing. Claim you're royalty on a small island, you should be ok. :)
#114 - On 03/04/2009 at 9:31pm by cecilia_weasley
Something is seriously wrong with some of you people. There's nothing wrong with cousins breeding??? Okay...imagine this. Sue and John are brother and sister. They both go to the hospital together because their children just had a baby together! THAT'S DISGUSTING YOU FUCKED UP PEOPLE. Is there not enough fucking people in the world?? Can't find someone outside of the family?? Is it THAT hard??? And just because some of your parents are second cousins doesn't mean there's not something wrong with it. If my cousin tried hooking up and/or marrying my kid, I'd kill him/her. I don't want to think about my cousin fucking my kid. Filthy people.
And another thing, a lot of you are confused why the OP didn't know that they were second cousins. Uh. Because that's fucking weird and gross and the parents probably know that, so they hid it from their kid. I would rather go through life not knowing that my parents are related, thanks.
#115 - On 03/04/2009 at 9:44pm by CaptainCrunch
YES this gives me hope of getting a hottie I see at every family bat/bar mitzvah I go to!!!!
#118 - On 03/04/2009 at 10:00pm by m0nicam0nster
#116 this is 115. Don't think so. My mom's a Mexican, my dad is white. And he's dead.
#119 - On 03/04/2009 at 10:06pm by CaptainCrunch
How did you not realize until now that your parents had the same last name??
#121 - On 03/04/2009 at 10:32pm by carlsshinypants
sucks. its not that bad, but your family tree probably wont look like a bunch of the other trees.
#122 - On 03/04/2009 at 10:45pm by TheOrpheus
Really, what's wrong with 2nd cousins marrying? That's hardly inbreeding.
#124 - On 03/04/2009 at 11:01pm by buymeagoat
Wait, did they do sack races together at family reunions, or do you have a common last name like Jones or Smith or Johnson? ( Or foreign equevilent) Cus if they know and didn't tell you, ouch. If you just have a common name, then that just plain sucks.
#128 - On 03/04/2009 at 11:24pm by alwaysalady
PATHETIC COUNT.
1. You didn't know your mom's last name until now.
2. You didn't find out they were second cousins until now.
3. It took you an in-school family tree project to figure this out.
5. EWWWWW.
Join the club.
At least yours are only SECOND cousins.
#130 - On 03/04/2009 at 11:28pm by 10fingeredfish
Anyone asking how you could not know your mother's maiden name is a tool. He said he realized, that means he's known but it just now occured to him, since it's an assignment, to ask why. If both your parents' names were Brown before the marriage would you think that as unusual? No, because something like 14% of the populace of the US has the name. Are every, single one of them related?
Tools.
Also, #129 you can't even count. Maybe your father is really your mother's brother.
#132 - On 03/05/2009 at 12:18am by silverling
My grandfathers grandparents came from a town that was founded by 90 different families - if your ancestors are from there you are related to everyone in that town in some way or another.
Same as anyone with a long history from the first towns in the US until they started spreading
My grandfathers grandparents came from a town that was founded by 90 different families - if your ancestors are from there you are related to everyone in that town in some way or another.
Same as anyone with a long history from the first towns in the US until they started spreading
FYI, you share a maximum of 6.25% genetic information with a second cousin. Speaking as a degree holding biologist, that is negligible and will NOT lead to to any significant increase in defects in children had by second cousins.
(You share 50% of your parents' genetic information, 25% of your uncles'/aunts', 12.5% of your cousins, and thus, 6.25% of your second cousins... In case anyone was curious about where that number was coming from).
Also, for the incest screamers, go back far enough in your family tree. I'm sure there has been relations between cousins as well. It's surprisingly common, not at all illegal, and does not lead to genetic abnormalities, no more than average that is.
It's actually amazing how ignorant people are. If you read about it a little you'll find that the marrying of second and third cousins has been common practice throughout history.
Even recent research has shown even in FIRST cousin couples that the likely hood for mental and physical abnormality to be less than 3% which is the common range found in guys who have kids before age 18 and women who have kids past age thirty five... Meaning SECOND cousins couples show absolutely no increase in genetic problems. DON'T FEEL LIKE A FREAK, Its only very recent people have started seeing this as a taboo.
Learn something~
You seriously never realized that your PARENTS had the same last names before? Did you also just learn that they have names that aren't mom and dad?
This really isn't that big of an issue ... even first cousin marriages are not uncommon, so I wouldn't worry about this if I were you. (I might lie on my family tree though - as you can see from the comments, there are a lot of people who freak out whenever the words "cousins" and "married" are used in the same sentence.)
#140 - On 03/05/2009 at 2:49am by ephilation
If you have ancestors from germany, england, scotland, ireland, poland, hungary, or wales, you can pretty much guarantee that an extensive family tree will show that you are a product of first and second cousin marriages at some point in your history
there's actually nothing wrong about marrying a second cousin. this whole concept that cousin marriage is unacceptable is a fairly recent phenomenon that arises simply from a modern social stigma, one person deciding "ew that just seems wrong" and then that attitude just spread, and it's only very recent. charles darwin and albert einstein both married their first cousins, for example.
if you look at the science, even if you marry a first cousin it doesn't have any noticeable adverse genetic effect on your offspring, unless it's repeated from generation to generation; ie someone marries a cousin, then their child marries his cousin, then their child marries her cousin etc. the US National Society of Genetic Counselors said in a study the likelihood of genetic defect in a child born from first cousins is only around 2% higher than in a unrelated parental marriage- they'd probably have a higher risk if they just married someone with diabetes! we all know that's perfectly fine. the problem is as i said before when there's repeated cousin marriage- then the percentages add up. it's just one of those social stigma's imposed by modern western society, largely based on 19th century research which has since been discredited. read more here if you really care: http://blog.wired.com/wiredscience/2008/12/cousinmarriage.html
personally, i'd never marry my first cousin simply because i know them all to well as friends. but i do know people who've married their cousins and their children are perfectely normal, actually quite high-achieving individuals. if my child, for example, said that he/she wanted to marry one of their first cousins i wouldn't object.
#1.... I LIVE IN SHELBYVILLE.
That you said that first comment is hilarious... because its so true.
Not for me. But for a lot of the weird kids I went to school with... lol
woww, im just surprised it took a family tree project for you to figure that out. kinda sadd. kinda pityful. lol :P sorry, thats definately a fml moment.
my mom and my dad have the same last name (brown) and they aren't related. so its understandable that he wouldn't think anything of it. i actually did a family tree for my 9th grade eng class and asked my mom about it, but they aren't cousins.
but anyways that must really suck. look at the bright side tho, they weren't brother & sister. :)
i wanna know how you didn't notice that they had the same last name..
#149 - On 03/05/2009 at 10:14pm by mydayisruined
umm you second cosins are really related to you. they are your moms/dads cousins child
partner - Cousin Cousin - partner
/ | | \
your 2nd cousin Mom-Dad your second cousin
it's a long distance relation.
Lie. Lie your ass off. It's not the worst thing that's ever happened, but you can bet most of the people in your class will not realize this.
i knew this one guy (and his whole family) for two years, and then we started dating. about six months in, i find out his parents are FIRST cousins.
it's legal. do you have any abnormalities? if not, don't complain.
#157 - On 03/07/2009 at 4:28am by beardsnbicycles7
if you married your second cousin, would that cause like birth defects of any kind??
im not sure because you dont have any. But if you marry someone related to you-- doesnt that usually cause something to happen to the child?
#159 - On 03/07/2009 at 12:02pm by uglydollz124
159, read post #143. That should clear up your questions.
#160 - On 03/07/2009 at 1:19pm by wafflemonger
@#9: I voted you deserved it because it's not a negative thing. Who cares if your parents are second cousins? Your L certainly is not F'ed.
to #159, yes, it does. Inbreeding is a serious issue, and it can cause many birth defects, like mental retardation. It's even caused new genetic transformations to occur, like blue-people disorder. It normally originates from Amish communities, and it's cause the fact that the 2 parents' DNA strands would be too similar to one another. There needs to be enough contrast. Sorry for goin' Sigmeund Froid on ya.
@#162: Please do research before running your mouth. D:
Even first cousins reproducing leaves only a 2-3% chance of birth defects. Second is hardly an issue at all.
2-3% is the same amount of risk as a 40-year-old woman getting pregnant.
#163 - On 03/08/2009 at 12:01pm by burdenofaday
Agree with #143. My parents are first cousins and as for my sibling and I, we have no physical defects, nor any mental ones. We've both grown into highly successful adults, in everything that we do, and have no problem with our parents being so close in relation.
Nor does any of the family. My parents relationship has been a huge example for me of everything a successful marriage should be, and after almost 40 years together, they're still the most in love of any couple I've ever known.
Like #143 said, it's a modern social stigma, but I'll add its a modern WESTERN social stigma. In many other societies, marriage between first and second cousins is extremely common. And in some of the hunter/gatherer tribes still existing today, incest between closer relations isn't frowned upon.
An example of a cultural taboo difference- In America, eating with your hands is considered to be rude to those around you, and an example of poor manners. In Ethiopia, using a utensil to eat your food carries the same taboo as eating with your hands over here.
Just because it's different, doesn't mean it's wrong.
#162. Sigmund Freud. Not to mention the fact that Freud was a PSYCHOLOGIST, not a biologist. Plus the fact that your information is completely wrong. Three fails in one post. Wow.
#166 - On 03/08/2009 at 6:45pm by infantrygirl
I semi-feel your pain. My sister just recently married our second cousin. This is not a good thing.
Be grateful you don't have flippers.
#167 - On 03/08/2009 at 9:42pm by HelloFlower
What, you expect us to believe you never knew EITHER of your parents last names? If so, you're an idiot. If not, you're still an idiot for not realizing such a clarifcal error. Epic fail, next.
i find it more surprising how some people skip over all the answers to the questions they are re-asking
-_-;;
totally normal
and if ur a chirstian or jew or muslim
its allowed
theres even the term in science called genetic attraction were close relative are attracted to each other
theres nothing wrong about it
im only talking about cousins here
cousins are allowed ONLY
lol
totally normal
and if ur a chirstian or jew or muslim
its allowed
theres even the term in science called genetic attraction were close relative are attracted to each other
theres nothing wrong about it
im only talking about cousins here
cousins are allowed ONLY
lol
"insest is the best put your cousin to the test"
i agree # 68 lol
lol i had a crush on my like 3rd cousin
pathetically i didnt know he was my cousin
until i asked my mom :/
lmfao yeah i felt really embarrassed
well in my defense i hadnt ever seen him in my life until
we started talking at a football game lol
yowzers, poor you. hopefully your parents married in kentucky? At least then legality wouldn't be an issue.
#181 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:27am by chouxpastryheart
#181. Second cousins can marry legally in all 50 states. Check your facts, mmk?
#182 - On 03/17/2009 at 4:05pm by infantrygirl
ok guys its not that bad or gross. i mean if it was your first cousin that would be a dif. story, or your bro/sis or something. but second cousin. NOT that bad.
sucks that that is the way you found out tho. howd you not know your moms maiden name? i guess your class mates won't let this one go for a while.. lolz
OMG THAT SUCKS.
Have fun keeping up the family tree! :)
#186 - On 03/19/2009 at 10:53pm by NeverMind88
you had that comming your probably over 15 and if you dont know your moms maiden name i would asume u dont know much
ok why the fuck would you get married to your parents cousins that wouldn't be your second cousins their not your cousins there you parents cousins your parents cousins kid is your second cousin anyone who says otherwise is stupid
#189 - On 03/22/2009 at 10:49pm by andy_warhol
#189... Umm... what? A little grammar and punctuation might help your post make a little bit of sense... Seriously, I have no idea what the fuck you were trying to say.
#190 - On 03/22/2009 at 11:02pm by infantrygirl
i would be way to embarassed to show that for my family tree
and i cant beloeve yer parents would keep that a secret from you and tell u the truth too
sometimes the truth is best not to be told.
your parent's cousin, is not your cousin at all. they're your aunt or uncle. your parent's cousin's kid is your second cousin. stop saying your parent's cousin is your second cousin. no they're not
#192 - On 03/22/2009 at 11:06pm by andy_warhol
I don't believe it. It's illegal to marry anyone closer than fourth cousin.
#194 - On 03/23/2009 at 5:24pm by UGAstudent
#194. Wrong. In all 50 states, it is legal to marry your second cousin.
#195 - On 03/23/2009 at 11:51pm by infantrygirl
i dont really understand the concept of second cousins, but you just now relize they have the same last name??
jeez...
#197 - On 03/27/2009 at 2:22pm by timeatrice
i'm so sorry. that tends to happen a few towns over from here. :(
#198 - On 03/29/2009 at 12:44pm by bloody_ignorance
LOL. straight up, this made me laugh.
That definitely sucks though haha.
#206 - On 04/06/2009 at 6:43pm by shesosweet24
All these people guessing at the OP's age being around 15 and 16, I have a question for you... Where do you come from that the average level of intelligence is such that you're doing family tree assignments after fifth grade (and that's being generous)?
I love how people are saying YDI because he didn't realize the parents had the same last name - you're all the idiots, you DO realize that there are people out there with the same last names who AREN'T related, don't you? Maybe he logically thought that's why. Or never bothered to ask what his mother's maiden name was, because a lot of people don't, so he never knew it was the same. Think before you speak.
#212 - On 04/15/2009 at 11:50am by nevele11
Just be glad that you didn't end up with a type of disformitity at birth.
#213 - On 04/16/2009 at 6:41pm by bluebunny289
you think that's bad? my little brother had to do one and we found out our whole family ancestry was messed up fml
#216 - On 04/21/2009 at 5:19pm by smiley4444
Your second cousin is your parents cousin's child. Your parent's cousin is your first cousin once removed.
hahahhahahhahahahahahhahahahahaa.
i bet that explains alot about your childhood.
:)
#219 - On 04/26/2009 at 3:20pm by fml_fyl_fol4ever
Even first cousins wouldn't matter either, and that's legal in most of the world, including most of the US. Second cousins is absolutely no reason to worry.
#222 - On 04/30/2009 at 12:52am by christopherlove
I can't believe how many of you don't know what a second cousin is...
And just because there's a social stigma against something doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. The only reason against marriage within a family is in the case of common genetic abnormalities reinforcing one another. This is extremely uncommon, even in cases of first cousins having children; there's nothing wrong with second cousins getting married/having children unless there's some massive risk of genetic abnormality (ie. both of them had closely related parents, or if both were known to have negative genetic mutations)
#224 - On 05/02/2009 at 9:22am by peoplearestupid_
this is not "FML" worthy...
I would know...
it happens in my family
I guess some people just think it's weird... when it's not... at all -_-
Just out of curiosity, why would anyone vote "You deserved it" when he/she wasn 't even born when it happened? Lmfao.
#226 - On 05/03/2009 at 4:32pm by TheProdigyLol
I hope that you changed your project or ended up lying. And to #1, Shelbyville, IN? Cuz I can picture that, lol. Then again, now I'm in TX, and I can see that in some very small towns here.
#231 - On 05/20/2009 at 10:04pm by SweetheartAngel
dude what does it matter? i wouldnt care if my parents were sister and brother!
you cant help who you fall in love with.
and YDI for not knowing moms maiden name.
#232 - On 05/21/2009 at 2:18pm by urbancowboyes
Second cousins are not as bad as you think. If you keep going with this logic, we'll all be cousins at some point.
Aw, second cousins isn't that bad. I've never even met my second cousins.
#234 - On 05/23/2009 at 10:13pm by theugly1
Everyone in the world is disctently related think about the first couple of people our ansestors. Second cousins isnt really that bad
omfg... I would never ever ever
marrry a cousinnn eewwww loll
pooorr u ahhhaha dont make the
sameeee thingg happen loll
#236 - On 05/30/2009 at 5:16pm by FUCKTHIS92
you do know that in some places, marring your cousin is ok and its actually quite common? also does it matter if your family if your in love? really? your in madly in love with your cousin, would you go out with another if it kills you inside? probably not, so just accept it.
#238 - On 06/04/2009 at 1:16am by Some_Person693
LMFAO, well, normally interbreeding results in mentally disabled children, your lucky their blood relation is very thin, and that you're not retarded. (:
#241 - On 06/05/2009 at 8:27pm by Incoldolesences
Wow lol dat kindov happend to a cuz of mind
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#242 - On 06/06/2009 at 2:09am by spikesomthin
second cousins? Even first cousins arent close enough genetically to have negative effects on offspring, and as for the creep factor, i've only met one of my second cousins ever, and i met him once. Second cousins are basically strangers. Really nothing wrong with this.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHH!!!
#246 - On 06/19/2009 at 10:18am by eaglesfan761
it's fine, i agree with #244, i've never met half my second cousins
#254 - On 06/29/2009 at 8:28am by xdivadivax
My parents are cousins too, although their like fourth or fifth. Sucks though doesn't it?
#257 - On 07/08/2009 at 12:05am by chelliejellie10
well, my question is how did you not notice both sides of your family had the same last name, we're there never family reunions? we're there never family Christmases?
#258 - On 07/15/2009 at 11:23pm by Paige_Nicole10
my aunt and my uncle are 1st cousins. they have 2 kids. so that makes her my 2nd cousin and her kids my 1st AND 3rd cousins... lol.
Ouch. Next time they go camping they should bring "incest" repellent with them.
#261 - On 08/14/2009 at 6:22pm by Lollercoasterz
Eh, second cousins really isn't much. Genetically that's pretty different, there's practically no increased risk of genetic defects. Hell, even first cousins is only a 1% increase in risk over normal you know.
#263 - On 08/25/2009 at 1:58am by Stormblazer
Dude, it's ok, u should b worried if they were first cousins or even brother 'nd sister!
#264 - On 08/28/2009 at 6:06am by DesertedbyGod
OP: Assuming you're semi-intelligent, you shouldn't care. Although you may have cause for concern if marrying cousins is some sort of long held family tradition.
#267 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:57pm by Googalitarian
WHO F***ING CARES??!! Are you healthy? yes i suppose if you are writing this.. then move on and stop being such a baby!
#268 - On 09/24/2009 at 5:09pm by fmylife_9999
its actually not as bad as you think...in arab countries and other third world countries, they marry second cousins all the time.
ha ha ha i didnt really think it was funny at first but then someone mentioned that you have to present it to yur whole class! hahahahahaha
When they got married, your mom obviously took on your dad's name .. or vice versa. So they wouldn't have to be 2nd cousins.
How is this a FML? Unless you turned out fucked up as a result there's nothing to complain about, really.
I have to say here, even if your parents were first cousins, the chance of intellectual or physical impairment is only six per cent. For second cousins, this decreases fourfold, unless there has been consistent inter-family breeding in your family history. This means, it's not a big deal. Really.
This is honestly the dumbest supposed "FML" I have ever read. Who the hell cares? "second cousins" is not a big deal.
It is to most people cause they find it disgusting, plus they think that 2nd cousins are still related by blood. I'm not good with the family tree stuff but I'm pretty sure that 2nd cousins aren't related by blood. Its probably like his aunts husbands sister or brother
Thats sick, but i feel sorry for you. There was an Australian Couple who were Father and Daughter, so don't feel so bad
The craziest part is ur from california, which is like anti-redneck, and inbreeding stuff. LOL. sorry.
it's ok, first you have your cousINs, then you have your first cousins...
#284 - On 01/03/2010 at 11:09pm by KatieGoesRawrr
Its actually not ok to mate with your second cousin, but is ok to breed with your 1st. this is because of causing deformities at birth. weird ay, but obviously you are fine!
how the heck didn't you know that?? YDI for being so dumb.
#286 - On 01/09/2010 at 4:38pm by andrascene
I feel so bad for you. I mean, if this was in Edgar Allen Poe's time, it'd be more accepted. But now people know that it's sick and nasty to marry, let alone have sex with, members of your family. Anyways, I'm really sorry that you're an inbred. That's really rough. FYL.
How could you not possibly know that your mother's maiden name was the same as her married name?? Maybe your just not used to that concept.. But still, both your Grandfathers would have had the same last name, so..
#294 - On 02/06/2010 at 6:54pm by GuitaristIreland
It's a matter of opinion. Cousins can get married if they want. It's not like they're siblings.
Assholes, learn to respect other peoples views. -.-
#297 - On 02/13/2010 at 2:34am by ThatRandomFMLGal
Alright now , it they were secon cusins that would have to make u retarted or something cuz their DNA is the same
My parents also have the same last name. That's basically a part of what "being married" means. That one of your parents takes the last name of the other. Duh.
thats means that your fuckibg ugly. Try puttin a bag over your head
#304 - On 02/26/2010 at 7:00pm by Fuzzy_Old_Peache
you're not the only one, my parents are 3rd cousins, my dad raped my mom and my grandparent made her marry him. i hate the way she was brought up and stupid ignorant cultural ways.
#305 - On 03/01/2010 at 7:01pm by Claudia1993
if you have one eye and live un the basement then you are an inbreed kid.... you should have figure that out yourself by now o.o
#307 - On 03/10/2010 at 8:26pm by laddiebastard
You didn't know your mom's last name until you made a family tree?????
#308 - On 03/13/2010 at 9:54am by Dreamhopper
