Today, after dating for almost five years, my boyfriend stated that I have a "perfect and amazing personality" but that my looks are not what he "envisioned himself spending the rest of his life with." In other words, I'm ugly. FML
I agree, your life sucks (22706) - you totally deserved it (1881)
On 11/15/2009 at 9:47am - love - by Anonymous (woman) - Canada (Ontario)
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So's her face by the sounds of things.
#17 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:58am by repyourcliche
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@ #17-Meh that was sorta funny, but not the greatest.
OP-Maybe you should be less ugly?
Maybe you should be more intelligent. ^^
To the OP, congrats.
#71 - On 11/15/2009 at 3:10pm by wingedspiritus
He is making it up. Its the other way round. He doesn't want to make an excuse about something that you would argue about or can control. He is over with you. Accept it.
Yeah, you can pick up other guys I'm sure...
But what a jackass of a boyfriend, I bet I'd find you damn gorgeous.
#4 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:35am by InfectedWithDrew
Too bad he wasted 5 years of your life before making this determination. What a jerk.
#5 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:38am by Jewelofagal
I would have just kicked his teeth in. What an arsehole.
#6 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:39am by CandidateForWax
Ask him what his preference actually is. Is it a little more hairy? Larger muscles? A little more facial stubble? I'm perfectly at ease with anyones sexuality, but this may irk him a bit.
#7 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:42am by simplesimplicity
He should have ended your first date with:
U-G-L-Y
You ain't got no alibi
You ugly
Hey, hey, you ugly
and be done with it.
It took him five years to get this out? When you get to your Silver wedding anniversary, he's going to tell you that he thinks your pussy smells bad.
The U-G-L-Y song, classic. (She’s gorgeous Brian, I take everything back. Ah, I get it, she’s a moron!)
Although, surely the smell issue would be worse than the appearance issue, because I assume when he runs for cover from her face…it’s between her legs.
what the... even if you were absolutely drop dead gorgeous, no one is spending the rest of their lives with it. He does know people age, right?
Exactly. What, does he think that someone pretty is gonna stay pretty forever? Even the most beautiful people who have tons of money for surgery get ugly. Except that people with good personalities have something left once they get ugly. His loss.
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what exactly makes it "his loss"? he clearly stated that shes an amazing person, but ugly. dont remember seeing "and thats why i cant see you anymore" in the fml. no mention of a break up. he was being honest that he doesnt find her to be an attractive looking person, which while harsh, is actually kind of a good thing, since hes clearly with her for the right reasons, and not cos shes just smokin hot. and why do i get the sneaking suspicion she prompted this statement...
#28 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:53am by organisedchaos
Because you're an ass. He said she's not what he envisioned himself spending the rest of his life with, which makes it sound like he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with her. If you tell a girl you love her personality but not her looks she is not going to be flattered. What if a girl told you you were ugly as fuck but you're so funny! You'd get offended. This is bullshit. Why do even the ugliest guys expect to get freaking supermodels. I know that doesn't have much to do with the FML but I'm just wondering. She should break up with him.
Just because he was with you for 5 years doesn't mean he has to stay in the relationship if he sees something he doesn't like. Also, he never said you were ugly. All he said was that you don't fit his tastes. Get over it. It's not the only penis in the world. If he wants to look for someone else, he has every single right to. That's how life goes.
#82 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:37pm by heyitsdaniel
Unless her looks dramatically changed since he met her, then he should've known she wasn't his taste 5 freaking years ago when they first started dating and broken up with her any time before now. But he didn't. Why? I have no fucking clue. He never brought up this problem before and that's why he sucks.
Why?
because not every guy is a shallow dick, and some actually give a shit about personality.
#100 - On 11/16/2009 at 6:12pm by Plumppotato
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omg you stuck up bitches are all the same "Your not what I picture myself spending the rest of my life with" "OMG YOU THINK I'M UGLY!?" yeah you knwo he never said you were ugly, he said your not what he picture himself spending his life with. Stop overreacting seriously, noone wants to hear it
#11 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:49am by kitten1323
Yeah but he said her LOOKS were not what he envisioned spending the rest of his life with - after 5 years. That is a really polite way of saying he doesn't find her attractive when she's spent a great portion of her life with him.
#14 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:55am by CandidateForWax
Well yeah there is that. I meant it's a MORE polite way than 'Hey, uggo.' byt of course it's not nice.
#32 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:06pm by CandidateForWax
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"That is a really polite way of saying he doesn't find her attractive when she's spent a great portion of her life with him."
...because how attractive she is to him should really be the deciding factor in whether theyre together or not...?
i dont get it, women bitch about guys only going after looks, this guy clearly didnt, and rather than simply pointing out that hes a bit forward and too honest but clearly with good intentions youre all bagging him. women, pfft.
go this guy for not being superficial and looking at what should matter most.
@OP i wish you all the best getting passed from guy to guy for being nothing to them but a pretty face. clearly this sounds more appealing to you.
#34 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:09pm by organisedchaos
Well no, I don't think looks are the contributing factor to a relationships - of course not - nor am I saying that OP has to be some smoking hot bit of stuff for it to work, but surely after 5 years he should think she's attractive anyway? Also, I don't know if the OP has said it or not, but if he has dumped her for not looking like the person he envisioned, that's even worse.
No one likes being told they're unattractive, it doesn't matter whether you're shallow or not. It is simply not a nice thing to hear, least of all from your other half.
#36 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:20pm by CandidateForWax
No matter whether he's with her for the right reasons, any half of a couple wants to appear physically attractive to the other half. This doesn't just apply to women. A guy would be bummed if he heard this, too. And he didn't just tell her that she was unattractive, he told her she wasn't the vision of beauty he envisioned spending the rest of his life with. You can't tell me that's not a crappy thing to say to someone you've been with for so long. If it were me, I'd wonder how long he could stay with me before that lack of physical attraction became a major issue. Obviously, he's thought about it.
#52 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:09pm by ssnepenthe
He might have meant exactly what he said; he might not find her ugly at all.
OP, you get a YDI from me, for being presumptuous.
#78 - On 11/15/2009 at 9:48pm by BeeSkwaird
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Sucks to be him, spending 5 years with an ugly girlfriend.. he must have been pretty desperate
#12 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:51am by marc_with_a_c
You will have the last laugh :) because even if he finds someone gorgeous who will marry him, then he will have to watch as they disintegrate with age, and he will be stuck with a wrinkled, ugly, foul person with zero personality. You on the other hand I am sure will find someone much better for you
Exactly! And to be honest, if that hasn't occurred to him, he sounds pretty idiotic. It sucks, but you're way better off without that kind of stupidity.
I forgot to say, you need to casually remark that you "always suspected, it just seemed to fit ..."
#16 - On 11/15/2009 at 10:57am by simplesimplicity
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Ok So get dolled up!
Your job is to attract the hunters to you!
Its basic humanity 101...
Lol
#21 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:15am by Cristaderzi
I know it sounds mean,
but maybe he didn't mean it the way you took it.
and even if he doesn't think you are goregous,
at least he's been with you for so long
and he loves your personality
and you've both found someone to love.
i'm not going to say i'm very pretty,
but I know a lot of what people like me for is my looks.
so i'm never sure who like me for me.
and you've found someone who does.
congrats(:
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no shit. Today, I discovered my boyfriend of almost 5 years is honest and loves me for who I am and not because hes a superficial asshole, FML.
yeah, youre so unfortunate. why the need to be hot? unless of course youre wanting the attention of someone else...and not everyone can be hot anyway. get the fuck over it.
#31 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:02pm by organisedchaos
its kinda like michael cera and his girlfriend he had before he got famous.
shes really ugly, and now thats he's gotten famous and such , i think he dumped her even though they were together for a long time.
weiiird.
it's not weird or unusual. it does make him a douche though
#92 - On 11/16/2009 at 2:38am by bored690
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well hes right and doesnt have to stay with an ugly GF!
#25 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:44am by 22jrdn55
ha. That sucks, but that could also mean he's trying to sayy he likes you for you, not your looks. :) You never know what guys mean.
Unless he was breaking up with you when he said it. If so, get a picture of him facing the left and another guy facing the right and photo-shop it to be the two guys kissing. The take a picture of the picture with your phone and send it to all his friends, all you friends and even print some out and stick them to the walls all over school or his work. :D Always makes you feel much better. :)
PS. The second guy should be someone you hate or highly dislike so you don't feel bad about it.
#26 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:47am by nintendo64
I get it.
I am a foot-in-mouth sort of woman and I would likely find myself saying something like this trying to be open and honest with my partner. I never envisoned myself with someone shorter than me. And here I am, married to someone two inches shorter (I am a 6' tall woman).
You're overreacting. No one wants to share your poopy party. Blah.
#27 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:53am by i_am_best_so
I'm sure he didn't mean to offend you, unless you think looks are more important than personality. :)
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Get plastic surgery. =D
#30 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:56am by Flyingpants
because he loves her for her personality and not because of her looks?
your right. hes an idiot.
#101 - On 11/16/2009 at 6:18pm by Plumppotato
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OP, get over yourself and enjoy the compliment.
#35 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:15pm by lostfaithinpppl
Dump his ass, and get yourself someone who appreciates your personality over your look. It's not that hard, honey.
#37 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:20pm by LadyBiatch
every guys dream girl is hotter than their real girl, the grass is always greener on the other side of the pasture right, don't pretend that doesn't apply to chicks, if you were with Billy bob you'd be like, damn where's brad Pitt at? some men just have a penchant for wanting to be totally honest and then it comes back to bite them in the ass.
#38 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:20pm by Coltronics
well then dump him life is too short for people who don't like you for who you are.
#39 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:29pm by majestydivine
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looks are important but not everything. I am not a vain person, but I picked my hubby cause I was attracted to him. I would not marry an ugly man because our future children would share 50% of his DNA. In other words, I do not want buck tooth, hump back children. My hubby is handsome but no supermodel and I love him the way he is. He had features I liked: tall, broad shoulders, blue eyes, nice smile.
In other words, you approached mating just like you would approach, let's say, dog breeding?
#42 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:43pm by lostfaithinpppl
Hate to be a grammar nazi, but the second quote shouldn't be a quote. "envisioned *himself* spending the rest of *his* life with". Unless your boyfriend speaks in the third person, which would be epic, that's incorrect. If he does, then Funk Engine is sorry.
#43 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:46pm by Funkengine12
clearly he turned out to not having a " perfect and amazing personality" or to be the one you "envisioned spending the rest of your life with" either
#44 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:48pm by shortsizeme
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Ever tried taking care of yourself? Women bitch all the time about how their man looks like a scrub, should shave more often etc. Why shouldn't women apply the same standards to themselves? This coming from a woman by the way...
Perhaps he ment he thought he was going to be with a butt ugly person. And he ment that you were prettyer then the piece of garbage he thought he would get. YDI for not keeping your mind open to what he most likely ment.
#49 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:56pm by Houndourpup
+ I bet you'd prefer hump back little toddlers than finding out that 50% of said DNA has a sprinkle of schizophrenia in it.
#50 - On 11/15/2009 at 12:56pm by Ipreferbroccoli
I like how Schitzophrenia doesn't result in birth defects. Way to know what you're talking about.
#59 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:27pm by Funkengine12
The causes are both genetic and environmental. Anyway, it was a reply to #40, get the point.
#67 - On 11/15/2009 at 2:04pm by Ipreferbroccoli
Sucks that your boyfriend has an idiotic side but that does not mean that you are ugly.
I bet that if you had the looks he'd look up to with that "amazing personality" he'd have no chance with you. Maybe you should remind him that we "ALL" have limited options.
I assume this egotistical asshole looks like George Clooney? Otherwise his judgement seems a bit harsh.
Do you wear makeup and do your hair? I would try that if you haven't and get him back!! = )
#57 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:19pm by rachelbrianna25
uh hey b#tch get you finger out of ur a$$ he said it wasent what he envisioned himself spending the rest of his life with but uh yeah dumba$$ hes still with you know is he not just because you dont look what he dreamed he would be maried to and spend his life with dosent mean sh*t if any guy actually was in a relationship with his dream girl we'd be living in a world full of some of the most amazing looking women alive he should dump you know just because your to shallow to realise that his words dident mean you are ugly but they instead meant that you just dident look like the girl of his dreams which btw im gonna guess is someone he wont ever have a chance with btw did i mention you are the most shallow b*tch alive
#58 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:23pm by Mylife_is_so_fd
Hey! Dont say that! Maybe you're just FAT. Or maybe even a combination of both fat and ugly
LMFAO.
#61 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:32pm by Cant_Touch_This_
Since #61 can assume how people look like with one post on FML, then we can most definitely assume that he is the combination of fat, ugly and a jackass right? Also OP, what he said sounded like an excuse to me.. Good luck to him finding a girlfriend that will stay pretty forever.
#63 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:41pm by Sunako
shes prob fat and ugly ( #61) since she doesnt have a pic... she's a stupid b**** .she prob. wants to be me ... LOL...
#64 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:44pm by sweetestsinxoxo
they don't have to stay pretty forever. He could get rid of the use to be pretty one once she gets ugly, and go for a younger model.
aha #64 thats sooo mean >.<
anyways screw him, he's the one who lost something beautiful
#65 - On 11/15/2009 at 1:48pm by Sweets_wtc
At least he said you have a perfect and amazing personality :)
#66 - On 11/15/2009 at 2:00pm by sayheyyybabe
At least you have an amazing personality.
Though no-one (but a sadist) would love the hear the second part. But hey, he imagines himself to be with you the rest of his life!
#68 - On 11/15/2009 at 2:35pm by BeautifulColours
Well, that Craig Hoffman's a bright kid--you might be ugly.
#70 - On 11/15/2009 at 2:52pm by DeadMansCrack
well if he calls you ugly that way he must be ugly and a college nerd. you can do better.
#72 - On 11/15/2009 at 3:13pm by WhyworldWhy
That is Fucked up. It's a blessing in disguise, forget that cunt face and look for a real guy.
#74 - On 11/15/2009 at 3:54pm by Mortanious
Yea, and his stupidiy is not what you envisioned being with for the rest of your life either!!!! Trust me, he will regret it!!!
Someone who really cared about you wouldn't say anything like that. Don't worry, you'll find the right person!
#80 - On 11/15/2009 at 11:01pm by Rosalind39
HE NEVER SAID YOU WERE UGLY! MAYBE HE HAS A SPECIFIC LOOK IN MIND!!
#85 - On 11/16/2009 at 12:23am by ActionManly
He probably didn't mean that you were actually ugly, just not drop dead goregous, and MAYBE he was saying that to clarify that the reason he is with you isn't just because of your looks. Maybe to him personality does matter more. Either way, he's being honest.
OH! and if he's been with you for the last five years, i'm pretty sure he likes at least one of your features.
He did not say you were ugly, but merely that you did not live up to his porn star standards. However, I do think that if he tells you this after five years, he’s probably met a woman who’s closer to those standards. You can walk out of this relationship knowing you have an amazing personality. He walks out being a douche who will soon get dumped by a girl who “just wanted to have fun”. He’ll be back, just don’t say yes when he will, because I will then doubt your ‘amazing personality’.
Soooo you'de prefer to be lied to?
Being with someone for a long time dosent make you more attractive.
Shit is still shit a week later. Except now it's older shit.
YDI
#98 - On 11/16/2009 at 11:23am by Grangoire
how the bloody hell did the OP 'deserve' to be rejected like this just because she may not be absolutely stunning?
it's not something you can control!! that 'ydi' was terribly uncalled-for
think about what 'ydi' actually means 'you DESERVE it'
even if the op is ugly, she does not deserve to live the rest of her life alone and unwanted.
you are an idiot.
#103 - On 11/16/2009 at 10:05pm by OLOtheDemigodess
You should say to him ''If I were concerned about looks I wouldn't be with you would I?,,
#99 - On 11/16/2009 at 3:27pm by epanssereves
Urgh i HATE ppl who place looks above personality
ppl age. Looks die. Personality never wanes... if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone I'd def. put personality over looks!
fyl, op :(
#102 - On 11/16/2009 at 10:03pm by OLOtheDemigodess
I've said the same to my gf. It's the truth. She's not what I envisioned myself with. But I love her very much. Sounds like your bf loves you too if he's stayed with you for 5 years. What's the problem?
#104 - On 11/17/2009 at 11:23pm by bigcrazymike
who the hell dates 4 five years and hasn't either broken up or gotten engadged?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
#105 - On 11/18/2009 at 10:24pm by ericvolp12
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So if he doesn't find you attractive, that doesn't mean you're unattractive to people like Quasimodo, Micheal Jackson, circus people, clowns, midgets, fat people, and/or other uglies.
#107 - On 11/29/2009 at 10:12pm by NorfolkDude
Ouch!..
jeez what a jerk.. you should have shot a good comeback rite at him telling him you not so fine urself aahah
i have no problem telling some people like it is.. and ur bf is one of those ahah
